On Being a Trans Woman … Who Doesn’t Pass

So, just to be clear, someone who passes as a cross-dressing man, rather than an actual woman, should be accepted. Totally cool with that, no problems with cross-dressing men.

In fact, I think that it’s kind of weird that we would insist that the only permissible way for a man to behave in a feminine manner is a complete surgical manipulation of their body so that people uncomfortable with feminine men won’t see any dissonance between body and behavior. The assertion that there is only one way to be a woman (aligning body with behavior), and one way to be a man (aligning body with behavior), seems awfully bigoted.