How To Have A Wealthy Marriage
Today is my 6th wedding anniversary. I married my wife 6 years ago and it has been great. However, we met in 2008 and have been together for 10 years now. I’m 26 which means I’ve been committed to my relationship with her since I was 16. My wife has never held me back, never told me to stop working so much, and never stopped me from achieving my goals. Having your a partner not be on the same page is the most crippling thing I’ve seen for those who want to create massive wealth. The intention of this message is to show you what my wife and I have done over the last 10 years (mainly in the last 5 years) to create a 10X Wealthy Marriage.
Do you. That is the first thing I would say. Why? Because the most rocky years of our relationship is when we were consumed by each other. I am an obsessed person. I became obsessed with her and because of that, two things happened. First, I wasn’t growing myself and becoming great. That meant I was becoming less and less valuable to myself, her, and others. Two, she can’t handle all of my energy and attention. Nobody can. Same goes for you. You should not put all of your energy on someone else, you’ll crush them that way. You need to spend your time studying, growing, doing, and achieving. Do you. Be the best version of yourself possible and your relationships will work themselves out. Especially your love life.
Have a target. Your target can’t be something that already exists. If you’re married, your target should not be “be married”. You’re already doing that. You need a bigger and better target than something that already is and already happened. That’s called friendly fire and it will injure your relationship. Couples who have the target of being in love and being married, usually suppress each other. Love is already happening. Married is already happening. That’s a static goal and holds you back from the next thing. And achieving the next thing doesn’t mean your love and marriage means less, it actually means it is more because now it is producing something rather than just existing.
Create. Your marriage is something you must create every single day. If you don’t create it, it is not there. Create means to bring something into existence. If you want something, you must go and bring it into existence. If you don’t make it exist, it doesn’t exist. Want your spouse to get serious about personal development? You’ve got to bring that into existence and take responsibility. Do you want a better sex life? You need to bring that into existence. I cannot stress enough how creative you must be.
Accept clear communication. So many people suck at communication. They attempt to read between lines that aren’t there, don’t clear state what they expect or want, and they don’t acknowledge each other’s communications. My wife and I work constantly on improving our communication. We are very clear about what we want, what we expect, and what we need. We don’t look for communication that wasn’t evidently there. If it wasn’t said, it wasn’t said. If I say something, but meant something else, she is going to take what I said, not what I meant. There is no passive aggressive communication or underlying unspoken messages. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Clear communication speeds things up. This means that we can go faster and do more because our communication is efficient and effective.
Hold each other accountable to giant goals. We do not lower our expectations for each other and we expect each other to have giant goals. We must push our goals to 10X levels and never lower the target. This makes it a game. And if you’re going to play a game, play one that allows you to win big! We don’t settle or justify or make sense of staying comfortable. We have built businesses, torn them down, moved, invested money we didn’t have, and risked everything all to win the game.
Marriage is a partnership and with a partnership you must be partners on the same thing. Otherwise you are not really partners. My wife and I are partners and we study the same content together. The program I offer, Wealth DynamX University, is the program that I use. My wife also uses it. We study it together as a team. If you would like to create a wealthy marriage, this is one of the tools that will help you get there. If you’re interested in getting on this same program, click here.
Own Your Potential,
Grant Cardone Certified Coach
Jerry Fetta helps his clients build wealth so that they can eradicate poverty in their own lives and own their potential.
He believes scarcity and abundance cannot co-exist and that the way to end poverty is to help you build wealth.
You were not created to spend 40+ hours per week serving the 40-year-to-life sentence trading your precious time for money just to live in mediocrity.
However, the truth is that time and money must be exchanged. It just doesn’t need to be you making the exchange.
Jerry helps his clients create wealth that exchanges time and money on their behalf. The only way to do this is to make more money, keep it, and then multiply it.
He has helped clients double their income, save $100,000 tax-free, and secure 8–12% fixed annual returns on their assets.
To get started, go to www.WealthDynamX.com/contact