“You’re not fat you’re beautiful”.

“You have a pretty face”.

“You look great. Have you lost weight?”

Have you ever noticed how nervous people are to call an actual fat person fat? Not the losers who try to hurt our feelings but like — casually, in conversation if a fat…


Three fat black people in black bathing suits in a pool. Photo by Shooglet.
Three fat black people in a pool, kissed by the sun and stunting on the entire internet. Photo by Shooglet

People react to fat bodies with rage because fat bodies disrupt belief systems. People put their entire lives on hold because they don’t want to be fat — refusing to show up to events if they haven’t lost weight or refusing to pursue goals until they are a certain size…


someone asked me about unrequited love last year and I wanted to share my answer with you… just in case… 😣


Wouldn’t it be fantastic if it always felt good to set a boundary? Wouldn’t it be absolutely terrific if a firm “no” was met with understanding and not retaliation?

We are educated to be compliant. We’re socialized to fit in. Respect your elders. Mind your manners. Follow the protocol…


For years I’ve witnessed the unquestioned humiliation of fat people hidden under the guise of heath concerns. Many of us have tried to defend ourselves by sharing personal details about our physical activity and lack of “health issues”. This has not kept us safe. “It’s fine as long as you’re…


I remember the first time I heard about Torrid. I was walking through the mall with my tall thin gay best friend who I had a massive crush on. He says “have you seen that store Torrid?” “Torrid?” …


an image of a confused cartoon character on fire looking at a wall of math equations

On the life changing youtube channel Surviving Narcissism, Dr. Les Carter uses a psychology equation to explain how covert narcissism and gaslighting result in victims of emotional abuse experiencing anxiety. As a survivor of such abuse I’ve been following his channel in an effort to identify when I’m experiencing behavior…


Have you ever mustered up the courage to share something personal only to have it received with a jarring or not so welcoming response? We’ve all experienced it. You share something you’ve been toiling with for days, weeks, sometimes years hoping to find some relief and then the way people…


The more I surround myself with fat activism the more my thoughts around recovering from and surviving fatphobia evolve. …


Dear odd older White woman with a terrible tumblr blog who a few years ago, just stumbled across my blog –

I don’t care if you like me.

I actually don’t care if you think I’m beautiful.

I don’t care if you think I’m strong, sexy and intelligent and I…

Fat Black Liberation

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