Thanks for being vulnerable, Jess.
Dave Schools

Thanks Dave! Your words are very kind. :) I am so grateful for the tremendous amount of support I’ve gotten (who knew everyone would be so nice?? ;) )

Your question is great and I thank you for asking it.

Your observation of the synonyms is right on point, however, they are different based on how you choose to look at it

*Only you can define the connotation*

selfless = less self = loss of self
Jess example: in n out cheeseburger = best burger I’ve ever had = product of inhumane slaughter of millions of animals

(I love me some burgers, that is just a poor analogy)

Here might be a better example, haha:

Loss of self: “I suck. I don’t know what I’m doing.” — Still technically selfish, I am still talking about myself, even if it’s in a negative fashion.

Selflessness: “Wow, you’re really good at that.” — Selfless, I’ve only given someone else a compliment. I‘ve forgone stroking my own ego to make someone else happy.

Akin to: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it (or think it) at all!

I hope that does something to answer! Let me know if I can further clarify. I’ll be writing about more about the ‘self’ and ‘ego’ in another essay :)

[Basically — every thing in life is relative to the user (humans). We are in control of how we view/speak/act/react, so if we can learn how to choose happiness in every scenario, we can always be happy :) it starts with the ‘self’]