
5 Ways To Make New Friends (When The Other Moms Suck)
We've all been there- trying so hard to get along with the other moms at the playground, birthday party, school function, or whatever, only to end up in the corner feeling like a loser while the cool mommies talk among themselves on the other side of the room.
I recently went to a kid's birthday party where I finally just walked up to two moms mid-conversation conversation and stood there with my best mom smile like one of the amigos- they literally stopped mid-sentence and stared at me like I was a chip-n-dale's dancer and had forgotten my thong. Basically, the message conveyed was 'YOU DONT BELONG HERE.'
Okay, cool. I totally get it. I'm new here. 🤷
But sometimes we get so caught up in the desire to be included that we don't stop to think about whether we actually LIKE these ladies or not. Are we into the same hobbies? Do our kids get along?

Because ultimately, there's A LOT of other moms out there. There's plenty of people willing to chitchat with me about the most recent show of whatever series we both watch. Plenty of moms willing to laugh with me about the lastest diaper blowout story. And plenty of amazing people who will leave me feeling uplifted and happy when our coffee dates end.
Except we aren't always finding these amazing soon-to-be bestie moms, because we're caving under the pressure to befriend Joy's mom at school so our kids can hang out on Saturday.
So let's take a step back. Let's share some ideas on how to find fellow mommies that will mesh with OUR vibe:
1. Local Facebook mom groups.
OMG...the ability to see what people post online before committing to a playdate at the park is an invaluable friend-matching tool! I cannot stress enough how many times I've hit it off with another online mom, and the ability to narrow them down based on similar meme-humor is a total score.
2. The library.
There's usually story time, craft events, etc. going on! I've met some super cool chicks while watching our kids fight over the biggest toy bins. It just works out somehow. Plus library story time is a great way for the kids to be entertained and us moms have some casual conversation over on the side. (Almost as good as real kid-free time, right?)
3. The coffee shop.
Okay this one's a bit harder, because you have to go full-on friendly vibes to do this. Grab your fave coffee and sit in a couch or chair next to another bored mom. Then strike up a casual conversation. You can start with great 'mom friend pickup lines' like, "What's your favorite phone game? I'm about to throw my angry birds app out the window if I lose this level again." or my personal fave, "Did they give you an extra shot of espresso too, or do I just look like crazy today?" 🤣
4. The obvious one- the local playground.
This is a super easy way to meet new moms, cuz we're all just sitting there- playing on our phones out of sheer boredom while our kids chuck sand at each other like it's their best day ever. Strike up a convo! (Also a great place for the angry birds pick-up line.)

5. The bookstore after dinner time.
Hear me out on this one. I recently met the most amazing lady at the bookstore, around 7-8pm-ish. She'd taken her son to the restaurant next door and they made her dinner margarita a little stronger than expected. So, they walked over to the bookstore to kill some time and play with the toddler stuff! We totally hit it off over similar 'Well, I guess I have an hour to kill now...' kind of experiences. (Hey, don't judge...us short people can be totally one-and-DONE with the right bartender.)
So there's a pretty decent list to start with, right? Comment below with your fave friend-matching hot spot too, if you've got one. Us moms need all the help meeting each other that we can get! 😉
Ps- if you're one of those mommies deep in conversation when a random mom approaches and busts in like a wierdo, please be patient with her... she might be feeling totally awkward and just need a friend to talk to. 😘
