Future of parenting

When parents can suddenly afford time or money to give the very best for their children, they will give them the best food and educational resources for them to learn and succeed. This has always been the case, but between Mountain View in California and Markham in Ontario, I’ve noticed that there is a greater concentration of rich parents. Children barely 3 years old go through rigorous schedules and classes even before they get a sense of what they might want to do. There’s hardly any time to “think for themselves”.

The obvious concern is that these extra lessons don’t offer a very good return on investment. Will tossing loads of money at this age really help your child to succeed? I’m inclined to say that it’ll do more harm than good. Aside from the problem that a child might not have a lot of practice with deciding what they want (to do) in life, there’ll be an overbearing amount of pressure that comes along with understanding the investment their parents have put in them. I’ve seen this in kids in Mountain View that carry this sense of obligation that they have to best their peers at everything, and the pressure that comes with graduating without a job or with a job that pays less than six figures.

Another thing I don’t like about the direction of parenting is the way that the world revolves around children. I completely agree that a parent should make their child their first priority, but doesn’t it teach children the wrong thing if every weekend was a full playtime excursion? It’s unhealthy and teaches them the wrong thing, just like if you buy flowers and chocolates for your partner every time you see them. They’ll form that expectation in their minds, and when you can’t keep doing what they expect, they might not take it well. Children should not dictate their parents’ schedules. Spoiling them now will only make them more spoiled as toddlers and adults.

I’m not a parent yet, but I’ve been thinking about parenting styles almost all my life. I have a vague idea of the kind of parent I’ll become, but it obviously depends on what my child’s personality will be. I’d like to see what kind of parent I’ll be once I have a child, and what my child’s personality will develop into. I’ll be sure not to spoil the child like how I’ve seen some people do. I already have a general sense of what I’m like from raising a puppy, too. Hopefully, I’ll have what it takes to be a good parent when the time comes.

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