I’d be thrilled if more men acknowledged that this is a prevalent undercurrent in our culture — the (false) assumption that femaleness is dangerous and distracting. Why do you think a man would be “crucified” for saying this?
These are hard decisions to make, in even harder times. Stay and fight? Go because the fight can’t be won by collaborating? Your conscience guided you to do what you felt you must, and that’s true leadership.