I’m in my late 40s and have been working in the tech business since college. I’ve experienced almost every single slight and dehumanizing behavior you describe here, and was always made to feel it was somehow my fault: That I attracted this behavior. That if I was less ambitious, male colleagues wouldn’t have issue with me. That I wasn’t a team player because I complained about crass sexist jokes told in my presence or directly to me. It’s only recently, with reading the emerging stories of sexual discrimination in the tech industry that I realized it wasn’t my fault! That I did nothing wrong aside from being female. This is such a relief! But it also comes with anger: not only was I belittled, harassed & abused — I was also made to think I brought this upon myself. I finally decided last year to leave this industry and follow a different path where the frat-boy culture isn’t revered. I run my own company now and hire more women than men. It’s not hard, so many women are so much easier to work with. But it’s also my way of protecting them — giving them a work environment where they can develop skills, self confidence, and earning power, undisturbed by this kind of abuse. It’s my small way of contributing to a larger mass of female executives and CEOs. Thank you, not-Amy for this article. I’m so sorry you had to go through this, and I am glad you moved on. All the best to you.