…en the effect for the cause. The cause you’re really looking for is exactly what those people lost. Getting what you want is the result of a paradoxical set of qualities, and that’s why it eludes us so. Gentle strength. Fierce compassion. Quiet rebellion. Silent courage. Beautiful struggle. Defiant acceptance. Foolhardy wisdom. It’s a kind of impossible alchemy of the spirit that we’re seeking, denying, rejecting, and hungering for, all at once.