After another long, bruising encounter with a narcissist, you have to ask the question: “Why do I attract narcissists, and how do I stop attracting them?“
Is it your nature, mere bad luck, or could the truth be more deeply hidden?
The Kind Of Person Who Attracts Narcissists
In my book How To Kill A Narcissist, I introduced the idea of the highly-sensitive person, or empath for short, as a possible reason why certain people seem to attract narcissists.
The emotional world of an empath is rich. They are artists and dreamers. Empaths inspire others with their energy and zest for life. They are healers, and usually creative and spiritual. They can brighten up a person’s day just by being themselves.
Yet this richness comes with a cost:
- Empaths crave love and connection more than most people, and they suffer when isolated. As a result of this deep need for emotional connection, their boundaries are usually weak.
- The emotional buttons of an empath are easier to push than those of non-empaths. Because they have a super sensitive emotional antenna, even the smallest attack can shake them up and break down their defences.
- The empath often feels fatigued just by being around…