My first female boss after I got out of the Navy was what I considered “normal,” IOW the left column (like my female Navy bosses and female coworkers had been). Then I would be in meetings with her and her boss (male), and she acted all right column. WTF, boss?
Then one time she did stand up for herself (actually, she was standing up for her people, me and my colleagues) and the department head tore her a new one, in a nasty and patronizing and ever-so-slightly racist way. Ah. Okay, the nail that sticks up gets hammered down, at least when it’s a female nail and a male hammer.
That was in the Bay Area in the early 1990s. I moved back East a couple years later. So… 20 years later and no improvement? Sad.