Why Do We Murder the Beautiful Friendships of Boys?
Mark Greene

As a 67-year-old man, your article reflects a fear of appearing gay, and a general lack of trust in others, that I’ve noticed developing in young people over the past few decades. There are a lot of things that are taboo today that were normal while I was growing up in the 50s and 60s. You almost never see two boys or young men riding together on a motorcycle. Hitchhiking has died out completely. Young men frequently use the stalls to urinate in a men’s room rather that using the urinal. Few young people change in the locker room at the gym. There are many more examples.

I’ve never heard the expression “no gay” before but it fits. Back when I was young no one even considered the possibility of being gay, or of being thought to be gay. While making life hellish for those who are gay, that freedom allowed boys to do things together without the fear of being thought to be gay. It all boils down to a greatly-increased cultural homophobia among young people.

And as an unrelated observation, I was surprised that so many of the people who responded to your article were women. Men are afraid to even show an interest in the topic.


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