Well, of course, my response was intended as an analogy, not as a foray into a parenting discussion. You’re right that a forced apology may not be worth much. How about acknowledging that a party has been hurt, acknowledging that the oldest child was responsible for the hurting, or even just taking the time to listen to the complaint of the aggrieved party?
The purpose of the analogy is to underscore that none of these things costs anything, and yet white Americans frequently do none of them when confronted by the complaints or even observations of Black people. Instead, the complaints of Blacks are more often met with disdain, pride and defensiveness.
Much like my seven year old frequently acts towards her sibling.