Thank you for this. My mother passed away last month, but only after three years of my ending all contact with her. So much of what you’ve written here rings true to my own experiences. Not only did the realization that you *can* choose family give me the courage needed to end my relationship with my mother, it gave me the perspective needed to be a better parent to my own kids. As their father, it’s my job to build a relationship that they won’t want to walk away from just as soon as they’re able.
I’ve been struggling with my decision to end relations with my mother in the wake of recent events, but reading your story has helped remind me of why I made the choices I did. Again, thank you.