It’s alien to me. My wife made much more money than I did. Our arguments about money were much like those where the man made most of the money. Security was much more important to her than me.
Also, it a very white middle class (verging towards upper middle) kind of scenario. Not even close to what frictions there are in a two working class (2 fulltime Walmart kind of wages) couples would feel.
I don’t have a clue as to how it would be for black or latino couples. Or rich couples.
A man would have written a whole different scenario on the subject of “what women don’t say”.