Dr. Gopika Kumar, Assistant Professor at JIMS, Delhi (one of the top MBA colleges in Delhi)
‘Confidence’ is a magical word that gives power to anybody it gets attached with. Does it really attach to an individual because of his efforts or is it what you attract? Does it have any magnetic properties to get attracted to you if you want to become powerful? Does confidence choose to be with you or you choose to be with confidence? Personify the whole situation and tell me how do you imagine it to be for yourself? Would you want to attract and pull this Magnificent power of Confidence to yourself?
You may be thinking now that it’s not what you attract but what you possess. You must be saying that ‘You either have it or you don’t have it’!It’s a game you get to play with ‘Confidence’ many a time but to win the game in your favor a few times and you are clean bowled. That may disrupt your inner being so much that you do not dare to play the game again and if you do, it takes a long time to convince yourself to overcome your feelings of failure. So then what determines your quotient of ‘Confidence’ really?
People say it is the exposure and opportunities that you get that frames your score for Confidence. Is that really true? Think about it? How many opportunities have you seriously taken to elevate your score of Confidence? Maybe a few, but is that enough? Are you where you need to be, or there is definitely still some scope for improvement! It is a constant struggle to continue to battle against the odds to increase your chances to become confident. The question not that we have the courage or not but the question is whether we have the courage to sustainability. It is only who sustains through various struggles can see themselves moving closer to their mission in life.
It is your self-image about what your exposure and opportunities have made you believe about your capacities, your skills, your potential which may not be true. It is just a reflection of capacities based on the little opportunities we have had the courage to take up to explore the vast potential of confidence. Are we really doing justice to our untapped potential? The self-image is the image of our previous experiences and should not limit the potential of future experiences one can have. When the past determines our future our potential of confidence does not get a fair chance.
It is our responsibility to elevate our level of confidence by giving ourselves a fair chance. Exposure to self-created opportunities will be able to elevate our self-image which will help us to elevate our personality and in turn will have a ripple effect on our Confidence. It is about believing in the potential of our capacities, skills, and abilities and give it enough number of exposures to be able to explore the untapped potential of a powerful self-image which ultimately correlates to abundant self-confidence. A person who is endowed with self-confidence is not somebody who is born with it but instead creates their diary of the destiny of immeasurable confidence and power through a lot of hard work, determination, sweat, and most importantly their persistence.