This, so much this. I emphasize this to my friends (guys and gals) all the time when we debate the “who pays” topic, and they just write off my insistence on my fear of commitment or dating with one foot out the door policy or whatever. But in all seriousness, this. People like to think that paying no longer has a sort of entitlement to or expectance of sex attached to it, and while I do think that tends to be true more and more, there is this sense of obligation attached to it. Obligation to see them again. To pay them back somehow. Maybe it’s just me, but I doubt it’s just me, so there’s some non-zero percentage of women out there feeling shitty about not going on a second date with someone who paid and trying to figure out what to do about it.