Thank you. In reading a few of the comments I think there are two issues that are being conflated, academia and “the real world.” In academia I am expected to remain in a group/classroom and engage in a way that can diminish my ability to ensure I feel safe in a way that the “real world” does not. I can leave, I can say that an action or comment is offensive and for my well-being I am going to leave. In academia I can be required to read and engage with visual material that can and have been deeply disturbing, Mary Doria Russell’s Sparrow and Children of God with its graphic rape scenes were incredibly painful to read as a survivor, even more so painful was the request of my graduate school professor to find hope and reconciliation in the text. In the real world I have the freedom to voice my displeasure at rape being used as a tool and my education or employment will not/cannot be harmed by it.
Yes there are many triggers like abuse or addiction in the “real world,” but I would argue that to retain our humanity as a society we must care about those things instead of treating them like their little boo boos that need to be forgotten. Having a sensitivity about serving alcohol in the presence of someone now sober is not being weak, it is being decent, it’s about empathy and considering the hurdles another has had to overcome to make a choice of sobriety.