Ending a Relationship

We’ve all had to do it once or twice or twenty times, we all have had someone we thought we would spend eternity with only to go heart broken and scarred. Breaking up is never and easy thing, never. You feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, that all your life has been sucked out of you, your happiness stolen from you. I’m here to tell you there is hope.

I have some experience in this area, I’ve been with someone for years and broken up with them and never spoken to them again. I’ve also been with someone I felt would be the perfect match only to be dumped 3 weeks into the relationship. I know how you feel, but that doesn’t help. I’m here to give you some tips on how to move on.

First off, if one of your friends just ended a relationship please don’t try to console them; one of the first stages of grief is denial. Trying to console someone during this stage only makes things worse for them. Saying things like “you deserve better” and “he/she wasn’t meant for you” only make things 20 times worse. Instead offer to listen to anything they want to talk about or just be by their side while they get through the denial process.

Secondly, if it is you who ended a relationship don’t delete them from social media or talk trash about them and don’t delete their number from your phone you will instantly regret it and then you will go deeper into your denial. Instead offer to stay friends or at least keep in touch.

Lastly, talk to somebody, don’t keep your feelings to yourself. Talk to your friends or your parents or someone that you know is a good listener. holding those feelings in is never a good thing. Men especially struggle with this, but you just need to do it. You will feel better about yourself and you will come out of the relationship much stronger and ready to move on.