And one of my least favorite Apple advance is the touchbar. I hear it may go away. Here's how my pet peeve plays out. Say you're listening to music on your MBP. A call comes in on your phone. You need to turn down the music. On my 2015 MBP the mute and up/down volume buttons are visible and in the same place they always are. One-click and we're done. With a touchbar you have to click the touchbar's volume control icon, then pull the volume slider up or down. The benefits of the touchbar have never added up to this moving and random interface problem. I hear Apple is considering ditching the touchbar.


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I believe life is a long and winding path. We walk the best we can. And when relationships fail, we walk alone. I have been walking alone for over 8 years since my marriage (w/ 2 kids) came crashing down. And the quest for my next relationship I’ve discovered some things about myself that I might never have known had my struggling marriage survived.

The 7 Things You Learn When Seeking Love Again

  1. You and your relationship with yourself are the only love you can count on
  2. You will not find yourself in the arms of another person
  3. Finding yourself must come first, then the next relationship can show…

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I just need someone to hold my hand while I go through this.

I have suffered from depressions since I was 15 when I had my first collapse at a prep school (Phillips Exeter Academy) in New Hampshire. I didn’t know what was happening to me. I was unable to study. (And boy, at that school I really needed to study.) I thought something was wrong with my brain. My dorm proctor didn’t have any advice for me. She recommended I go see the school psychologist. I did. It didn’t help. …


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There are some things about parenting after divorce that are easier and more focused. When my kids are with me, on my nights and weekends, I let every other priority drop from my life. My connection and caring of my kids is my only my priority. And perhaps this is why I haven’t been in heavy pursuit of a relationship since my divorce, four years ago. I’d like one, but I’m not willing to trade-off any of the focus on my time with my son and daughter.

The 7 Benefits of Being a Single Parent

  1. The time you do get is more intentional (even though you don’t get…

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I am a feeling-driven person. My moods can drive ecstatic highs of creativity and pull me into lows of lethargy and inertia.

There’s no amount of lamenting that’s going to remove the sadness I have about the divorce. No amount of time that’s going to heal the ache of loss I felt walking out the door of my house for the last time, knowing my kids were going to live 70% of their lives without my presence. Okay, so where do you go with that sadness? What can be learned from the loss of a divorce?

Put your kids first…


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Yesterday, I was helping a client with a website project. It was in WordPress, so I felt comfortable presenting my skills as experienced and confident. The project, however, had different plans.

  1. Yes it was a WordPress project.
  2. It was also a database integration project. (With the esoteric FileMaker platform)
  3. There was an official DBA and developer attached for the heavy lifting.
  4. I imagined I would play a project manager on this initial step of the project.

All hell broke loose by 11 am on my first day.

I was in uncomfortable waters the minute the DBA said, “I’ve never done…


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Now Available On-Demand for $49.95: Why Do Gurus Still Need Money? When Deepak and Oprah team up to create meditation programs that are good for the world why do they still charge so much money for them?

I wrote a post on Facebook today that voiced some of my skepticism about enlightened leadership and why they still need the money. If Robert (Rich Dad, Poor Dad) is hawking a 19.95 per month newsletter that he assures me will lead me to a better, more prosperous life, why isn’t he giving it away? …


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<preamble>
this valentine’s thing is a bit of a miss for most of us…
wait, we’re supposed to be romantic on *this* day
and that means flowers and chocolate kisses
to make up for the missed kissed opportunities of the last year

hold on to that sweet card today give them time time is the currency of love without time… flowers cards romantic gestures are more like a marketing campaign not about love about moving product the beloved is not a product, place, or even person the beloved is inside all of us to be shared and shown in times…


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Given those two facts, her loveliness and her affinity for alcohol, I was not too alarmed at the start of our relationship. She was hilarious, she was highly functional, and she was a physical homage to fitness and pleasure. To say we started in the bedroom would be to miss the fact that we’d known each other for several years before we go together. But we revved up the bedroom as soon as we cleared the initial dating hurdles. And quicker than my mind or heart had a chance to register any alarm at the wine charm that formed a…


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We all come into relationships with our issues. Some of us have done a ton of work on getting our shit together. Some of us have not done as much work. When we begin to feel the imbalance in our romantic relationships there are some healthy practices we can lean into so we don’t lean too far into a rescue for this other person. Lesson 1: You are not a firefighter, you cannot save the other person. And, in fact, running into the burning building may kill both of you.

How to Establish Your Healthy Boundaries

  • your health and your happiness are the only parts of…

John McElhenney

John McElhenney is an author, life coach, and musician who lives in Austin, Texas. He’s best known for his single dad blog, The Whole Parent. (wholeparent.org)

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