Dina, you are right women need to do more.
A look at the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq: Men, who make up 84 percent of the total force experienced 97% of the deaths in the two theaters of operation. https://www.thebalance.com/the-cost-of-war-3356924
The Vietnam war memorial tells the same story: Of the 58,220 names on the memorial 58,212 were male and 8 were female. https://www.archives.gov/research/military/vietnam-war/casualty-statistics.html#gender
Women live longer and die of “old age” when compared to men:
“In the U.S., life expectancy at birth is about 79 years for women and about 72 years for men. The gender discrepancy is most pronounced in the very old: among centenarians worldwide, women outnumber men nine to one. The gender gap has widened in this century as gains in female life expectancy have exceeded those for males.” https://www.cmu.edu/CSR/case_studies/women_live_longer.html
So it seems men’s lives are more hazardous than women’s on a whole. So I agree with you. Women need to more to share these hazardous burdens equally with men.