and how it can change the way you see things

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Henn Kim

In its simplest form, gratitude shows you that the grass beneath your feet is greener than you think. It makes you look at things as a cup half-full, instead of a cup half-empty. It teaches you that happiness is always now.

Gratitude is more of a practice than an action. You practice it mentally and emotionally. It’s when you repeatedly take a step back to look at what you can be grateful for at that moment.

When you start being grateful, most of your worries seem smaller; your fears have less power over you. And that changes everything.

What is phenomenal about gratitude is that, even though you will always know more fortunate people than you, you can still find at least one good reason to be grateful for, every day. If you think about it, you will see that the same applies when we complain. As Justin C Scott said, “Many of us complain, few of us actually have genuine reasons to do so.”


- with these simple exercises

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Henn Kim

In a nutshell, a thought is “an idea or opinion produced by thinking, or occurring suddenly in the mind.”

Most of us worship our thoughts, and we take what they say very seriously. Whatever our thoughts say, we give them our complete trust, taking them as the absolute truth. As a result, the most painful emotions arise when we believe in negative thoughts. Thoughts like:

“I should be more fit.”

“I am a fraud.”

“I really messed that up.”

“I will never get it right.”

“They are ignoring me.”

“I am so unfortunate.”

“They think I’m stupid.”

“This is too hard, I should give up.”


the opposite of connection is loneliness.

How to connect with someone
How to connect with someone
Henn Kim

Loneliness is becoming the most common thing people go through, even when surrounded by other people. It can be terrifying and it’s considered as one the most unpleasant things one person can feel.
In fact, loneliness has been studied for quite some time now, and scientists have shown how it even affects the well functioning of our brains.

Naturally, the opposite of loneliness is connection, but how to really connect with someone? We can see that many people know how to connect most of the times, but many of us feel truly lost.

It is, though, our responsibility to connect with the people we want in our lives. …


It’s simpler than you think.

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Do you ever feel like another day goes by and you still don’t know what you’re doing here? Or who you are? Or what you should be doing?
You know, with your Life.

I searched for the definition of Life, and the Cambridge English Dictionary describes it as “the period between birth and death, or the experience or state of being alive”.

The period between birth and death.

The experience or state of being alive.

???

What is Life? How come no one gave us an instruction manual on the day we were born explaining what we were about to get ourselves into?
Like a thick book with a heavy cover that we would open and read on the first page: “Hello, newborn human, and welcome to Life! …


and what you should do, instead.

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Henn Kim

We feel frustrated and stressed when we have to do things we don’t want to do. That is why the phrase "I have to" is so present in our lives. But the truth is, there is no such thing as having to do something.

If you wanted, you could wake up tomorrow, go to the nearest train station, pick the first train and drop off in an unknown destination.
No one would make you stay. But what they would do is escalate the consequences if you don’t do what you are expected to do.

Every single decision you make comes with a consequence, and that’s the reason why we do things we don’t really want to do. Like waking up at 7 am to go to work, when you hate it and know you’re more productive in the evening. …


You don't wait to improve. You practice it.

How to improve yourself
How to improve yourself
Henn Kim

To improve yourself is to do little acts of nourishment every day.
Start today:

1. Count your three wins of today and decide the three you want for tomorrow

“One step forward is a step in the right direction.” Kara Goucher

Every night and before falling asleep, practice counting the three wins of that day. It can be from “I won the lottery” to “I made a nice coffee”. Then decide the three wins you want to have on the next day. This is an effective technique to mentally track your daily life and put you in the mood to wake up the next morning.

2. Learn how to love yourself more

“Be nice to yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someone is mean to you all the time.”


In this over-connected world, we believe that the root of our crisis lies in complete disconnection with nature, others, our true selves, and ancestral values.

Back in the days, we used to live in harmony with our environment, while following ancient wisdom transmitted through generations.

The human race kept evolving, but can we honestly say we’re going in the right direction? Our kids are growing up along with individualism, instant gratification, and dependence on material goods — while we spend our time destroying our planet.

As writers, we feel the urge to inform people and raise their awareness to make more conscious choices, thus contributing to a better society. …


and here are some techniques so you can build yours.

Self love
Self love
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There is absolutely no one who thinks only positive things about themselves all day and every day. Lack of self-love/self-worth/self-esteem starts from one thought. That thought is “I am not good enough”. And most of us think we are not good enough as we are.

“I am not good enough” is the reason why most people today are running the eternal rat race.

The thing about self-love is that you will never get it from someone else. You have to build it yourself. …


A step-by-step guide for beginners.

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Working remotely is becoming beneficial to everyone more than ever before. And since this is the way I’ve been working lately, I want to share my best advice to start using Upwork — “a global freelancing platform where businesses and independent professionals connect and collaborate remotely.”

You can find other freelancing platforms on the web, but I’ve found that Upwork is remarkably competent and reliable. Though, to get in, you have to know how to stand out in this freelance world.

I'm here to help you with that.

What types of jobs exist in Upwork

Before we start, it’s essential to know what you can find. Here’s the full list of types of services you can give by working as a freelancer through Upwork. Here, you can choose up to four types of work within one of the # sections. …


coronavirus
coronavirus
Henn Kim

Or will we make it more unsafe by convincing ourselves we’re taking measures to ensure our safety?

We all thought this would happen only in the movies, but today humanity is boiling in the water of fear. The COVID-19 outbreak is the tipping point, and it pushed the human race into full-blown panic.

Why?

Firstly, because the world is finding out countless weaknesses in its own system. We were not ready for this.

Secondly, because COVID-19 is an invisible and unknown threat. We fear it. And fear is what feeds panic. It brings up the best and the worst of us all.
In my country, Portugal, people are in their homes doing quarantine as prevention. …

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joana dos reis

I believe in ❝ the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. ❞ ↠ joana3reis@gmail.com

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