Apr 6, 2020The Luxury of Alone TimeMost of us are currently searching for positive aspects of social isolation. If one or both parents are working from home, they may have unexpected opportunities to spend individual time with each twin. Of course, each household has different needs. …Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Mar 30, 2020What Is Your Silver Lining?I want to share my thoughts in this blog post about the new normal imposed on us by the coronavirus. Through conversations with my patients, I have come to appreciate how prior experience in managing emotional and physical vulnerabilities equipped some individuals to adapt better to self-isolation. For example, a…Psychology3 min readPsychology3 min read
Mar 23, 2020When Is Enough, Enough?I recently had a conversation with a young woman in her midthirties about her fraternal twin brother. She and her brother got along well all their lives. They went to separate colleges and lived and worked in different cities until six months ago. …Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Mar 16, 2020Thank You for ListeningI recently gave a presentation to the Phoenix Valley Mothers of Multiples. Thanks to the terrific event-planning skills of the organization’s workshop coordinator, the attendance was wonderful. Most notably, many dads and a few grandparents were present. I was surprised to learn that many of the families had identical twins…Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Mar 9, 2020The Intersection of Our Past and PresentSpeaking to a lovely group of twin moms, I was struck by a dilemma plaguing one of the mothers. She related that, contrary to her own personal beliefs, her husband is passionately opposed to the idea that it is healthier for twins to be differentiated. He believes their six-year-old fraternal…Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Mar 2, 2020What If?What if my twin falls apart and I am not there to pick up the pieces? What if my twin never gets married? What if my twin cannot forgive me for moving away? What if my twin decides to quit running the business with me? Many of my patients tend…Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Feb 24, 2020Rupture without RepairSadly, in my work with adult twins, I encounter some pairs whose relationship collapsed due to an inability to resolve competition and conflict. In many instances, the primary sticking points are perceived and real inequities among the twins. For example, who is wealthier, who has the bigger house, who has…Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Feb 17, 2020Did You Hear What I Said?I recently read an article in the New York Times called “You’re Not Listening. Here’s Why.” that resonated with me. It states that we do not listen attentively to the people with whom we are most intimate because we assume that we know what they will say and consequently how…Twins2 min readTwins2 min read
Feb 10, 2020Insist, Initiate, IncorporateI recently posted an article on Facebook about the social media backlash directed at a father because of his decision to spend time alone with each of his four-year-old twins. Apparently, many people accused him of inciting separation anxiety if he implemented this plan. Nonetheless, he offered valid and legitimate…Twins3 min readTwins3 min read
Feb 3, 2020A Welcome Addition to Multiples Parenting LiteratureI am delighted to tell you about a new book coming out in February -Parent like a Triplet, written by Norwegian identical triplet Kari Ertresvåg. I had the tremendous pleasure of writing the book’s foreword, which I want to share with you here. Foreword to Parent like a Triplet I consider myself Kari Ertresvåg’s partner in…Parenting3 min readParenting3 min read
