Awakening the warrior

Whose there for the ones who feel broken?

The ones struggling?

The ones battling mental health?

It's interesting yes?

I think my situation in regards to the beautiful souls I meet with each day and speak with ... and nearly everyone that comes my way they say, I feel so broken, so tired, so weary.

They come with broken hearts, they feel overwhelmed, they feel worthless, they feel so misunderstood.

And many feel a fog, a darkness where a good head space feels more of a dream than a reality.

But at not one point do I…


The Blessing’s in disguise..

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If I become blessed, enough to be deliciously old, draped in fine lines, wrinkles, saggy skin, skin spots and know my journey is coming close to an end, I truly hope that this peace sits across my heart...
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That I like to be really solid within and able to say “THIS glorious life was so unbelievably jagged, imperfect, hard, enormously fine, and I did it, I lived it to my best ability.”

I hope that as I walked in this journey, and my existence was present, that I could be so comfortable and say…


If I become blessed, enough to be deliciously old, draped in fine lines, wrinkles, saggy skin, skin spots and know my journey is coming close to an end, I truly hope that this peace sits across my heart...
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That I like to be really solid within and able to say “THIS glorious life was so unbelievably jagged, imperfect, hard, enormously fine, and I did it, I lived it to my best ability.”

I hope that as I walked in this journey, and my existence was present, that I could be so comfortable and say it was WITH Love and…


Hello

Well 2020 has been a HUGE year, I am sure you will agree.

Especially here in Victoria, which saw us in a position of lockdown for 6 months.

It’s taken quite a bit of adjustment in last 2 months. Many feeling they are trying to squash the previous 6 months into the 2 months.

So, Christmas for many is feeling a just tad too soon.

So no wonder there is confusement!

Christmas, well is it not meant to be a great, positive time of year, for everybody?

When I chatter within my whanau , it is this excitement, embracing…


What you do at this very moment…

will endeavour to shape the future of your child/children and the relationship they will have with you in their adult life!

FOR when they become ADULTS, I can assure you 100% they do not suddenly get amnesia at 18 years old and forget all the times you may of:

1. Questioned them endlessly to what another parent is doing, saying, who they are spending time with.

2. Scold them for enjoying the other parent and the outings they are doing

3. Put down the other parent’s family & friends.

4. Denied them contacting…


Do not engage…

When a father comes to me, there is a lot of heartache and anguish; I can totally empathise with them having been down the hard walk ourselves I can feel their pain and get their total frustrations.

A father’s life can be been turned upside down, kicked out of the home, living on a couch or house sharing, or having to start over again, generally I have a dad that is faced with not seeing their child/children.

This can then mean they will need to engage in court proceedings.

What I am going to tell you about…


I had a client the other week telling me that he received a message from the mother who said something along these lines of:

- Zara (not their real name) doesn’t want to see you.

- When the father said well the orders state that Zara is to come into my care.

- The mother was insistent that the child did not want to go, and I cannot make her.

My client’s child was 5 going on 6.

I received the distressing message from my client on a Friday around lunchtime, it was in school holidays and the client was…


Ego’s, control, power, self-esteem, pain, and broken hearts.

I sit here and wonder about when a couple separate and there is a child/children involved, what considerations have they taken in regards to the children.

I am very much aware of our Family Law system being clogged and cases taking so long to get through and child/children are without both parents in their lives because of this broken system.

I think about my own separation, and it was hard, it broke me into pieces as I was the one leaving, I was unhappy and had been for a very long time there were many reasons I was at fault…


Let’s face it our Ex-partner, will know all the emotional buttons, possibly the ones that push us over to a place of anger, disappointment and frustration!

And perhaps this button pushing was one of the reasons you are no longer together.

Possibly it may become worse since you have separated, this may come out of their own hurt and pain. But as we can’t control what they will do we can control how we can react.

When we are left with a situation where you are relying on your ex-partner to inform you about school, or extra curricular lessons, or…

Jodie Myintoo Counsellor

Counsellor & Author specialising in relationship breakdown, separation, family law, grief, trauma & managing stress.

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