Perfectionism

Joe Gorman
Aug 26, 2017 · 2 min read

Perfectionism is a path to unhappiness. Try harder. Lose a few more pounds. Do better. Quit making mistakes. Be perfect. Get more exercise. Be perfect. Quit slacking. Be perfect. Life goes by very quickly and we owe it to ourselves to acknowledge that we are sometimes struggling, sometime striving human beings who will never be perfect. We are good enough already. We bless the world every day if we relax and be exactly who we are. The world needs us to be us, not an impossible fantasy of a person. There is no greater success than finding the courage and the determination to be true to who we are.
When we tell our dreams to someone and they say we should “be more practical,” assure yourself that being true to our own spirit is the most practical move we can ever make. When we are children, we sometimes were led to the misunderstanding that we have to be perfect to avoid losing people’s love. When we become adults, it is essential that we give ourselves permission to feel the way we feel and think the way we think. If someone says, “you shouldn’t feel that way,” we can assure them that we already do feel that way. We are good enough exactly the way we are. Loving someone means appreciating their imperfections. Please show the same love to yourself.

This essay and thirty other meditations on finding peace of mind is from my book, Keep Reaching For Your Happiness, available from Amazon for $6.99.

https://www.amazon.com/Keep-Reaching-Your-Hap…/…/ref=sr_1_1…

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