We Can’t Fix Someone Else

Joe Gorman
Sep 3, 2018 · 1 min read

We can’t fix someone else’s faults. Reflect on that written-in-stone fact. Whenever we get the idea that we can fix someone else’s faults, it’s time to gain some humility. We gain humility the easy way by meditating on our human limits and accepting that our powers do not extend to fixing anyone else. We gain humility the hard way when we try something that is impossible of us and are “humiliated” by the failed outcome. Be humble enough in the future to realize deep down that other people’s faults are not our challenge. Our challenge is always to fix ourselves and to become aware of our own blind spots. So when we have an impulse to “fix” someone, let that become our clue that it may be time to look inside and meditate on how to correct one of our own character defects. We are humans and are imperfect by nature. We always have defects to repair. We can fix ourselves. When we let go of the fantasy that we can fix someone else, we let go of frustration, anger and exasperation. We become healthier.

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