What IS Love?

Since we’re soon to end The Month of Love, I figured… Why not? At least we have that extra Leap Day.

Love. We’re naturally born with the power to love. Heck, we’re instilled with that kind of intangible power way before we’re even born — when we’re in the form of a fetus. Full of potential, yet unborn. But yet, why do we have trouble finding “love” as we age? Is it because:

A. Other people have different views of it? (Yes, that’s not uncommon)

B. People just don’t have time for it at the moment because of their other aspects of life?

C. People just don’t know what “love” is or how to properly engage in it?


D. People don’t look for “love” because they don’t want to get hurt again?

In reality, it can be either one, or even worse, all four. Everyone in the world is different, yet we all know the basic grounds of “love” — you need another “soulmate” and you just want them to be yours forever. You give them your time, effort, and comfort, and you expect the same in return.

Well guess what? There’s no love in The Hood. Just kidding. I believe people (mostly men) put up that “tough” exterior to hide their idea or view on love because they feel it makes them look weak or emasculated. Well, to me, that’s pure bull crap. I believe if you embrace your idea or view on love, it masculates you even more. But apparently, emasculation (not the literal definition) weighs more than masculation, and that’s kind of messed up.

So why is it that we’re naturally born to love, yet it’s still difficult to do so? It’s difficult because you can’t love your “soulmate” the same way you love your parents. This clicks with the third multiple choice. We know what “love” is with our parents or family in general, but it’s not the exact same “love” when it comes to your “soulmate” or girlfriend/boyfriends, however you want to call it. It’s complicated, I know. But, I have a feeling you know exactly what I’m trying to say.

-It’s like math. You know the concept behind it, but when it comes down to the real work, you’re stuck.

To the people that are afraid to look for love because you’re afraid of getting hurt: remember what Aaliyah said- “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself and try again.” Sure you may get more heartbreaks, but you’re just one heartbreak away from finding true/real love.

So what is love?

-It’s an intangible feeling (and I guess you can say power also) that we are all naturally born with. But, it’s a feeling/power that gets complicated as we age.

Coming Soon (Part 2)

Loving Vs Falling In Love