Joe Schuch
Jul 30, 2017 · 1 min read

Each of us gets a bit insecure from time to time. Empathetic people understand that, on occasion, when their beloved partner wakes up feeling a bit wobbly, they know how to support the work their partner does to get back to positive head-space.

I think the elephant in the room is that chronic insecurity or “low self-esteem” (gawd! I hate that term) is often a symptom of much deeper psychological issues — issues requiring timely, professional help. Emphasis: timely. These issues, if unaddressed, can lead to far more destructive behaviors than mere emotional self-flagellation.

For example, the badge of insecurity can mask deep narcissism (it’s all about them, always). It may also form the tip of a bipolar iceberg (‘my misery is my only joy, except for your mutual misery… which is my greatest joy”).

Doing a rain-dance in the desert isn’t going to change the desert (it would be arrogant on our part to imagine ourselves good enough dancers to change the desert) but, after 20-years the dutiful, desert-loving dancer will be scorched and spent beyond repair.

Above all, love yourself.

    Joe Schuch

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