You still don’t get it do you? It makes no difference what the context was or what she actually meant. All that matters is how what she said would be perceived.
In the US, and other western nations, “jihad” is interpreted to mean a violent holy war. Again, see Webster’s Dictionary. A dictionary identifies what words are interpreted to mean.
Muslims need to stop defending the indefensible and simply admit that there are some really bad ideas in Islam. Rather then defend those ideas Muslims need to walk away from them.