Your Crazy Roommate

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This really can be way more fun and adventurous than we think.

We have a buffer to the outside world.

Our inner voice.

It protects us from the crazy and unpredictable out there. We really have no control over any of that.

Our inner voice creates this amazing little cloud of judgement, fantasy, protection, and sometimes just pure confusion. It’s our crazy roommate!

How often have you had a conversation with yourself about some situation in the past or something you are worried about that is supposedly going to happen in the future?

What good does any of this do knowing the fact that you 100% can’t change the past and the future is so unpredictable that trying to predict it is futile.

Even the best forecasters of market trends using statistics and previous trends are wrong all the time.

I’m even finding myself trying to predict where the real estate market is going to go or where our industry is going to get disrupted. I need to be more honest with myself and not waste too much energy on trying to predict that craziness.

It’s impossible to predict. Yes, do people get lucky all the time. Of course! They happen to know when markets are high and low and even and blah blah blah.

Go ahead, read what the experts say. That’s OK! It might be right. Or it might be totally way off!

A perfect example is the fact that the so called experts have been predicting a really good rise in interest rates for the last 3 years and it really hasn’t happened yet.

Now let’s say it does happen.

The experts will say, “See I told you so”.

Enjoying the present moment and reacting accordingly is a more fun way to look at it.

It’s a great adventure just waiting for you to jump in. The present moment is like a train at the station hoping for you to hop on and enjoy the wonderful ride. Let’s call it The Present Depot.

But yet, here we are all stuck in our little voices in our heads worrying about the future or what we did in the past or what if this or what if that.

I’m going to call that the Train Station of Suck!

Not only does it actually suck, it sucks the energy from you because your little voice is a constant chatter of bullshit that doesn’t matter.

What does matter is recognizing the little voice in your head and saying, hey there little voice, can you shut the hell up.

You are in control. Not the little voice.

I was reminded a good example of this last night while I was chatting with my wife. I was sitting over in the corner festering about this or that and worrying about some stupid future stuff that doesn’t even matter since it hasn’t happened yet.

As I was talking about it, she caught me talking about this future thing and I was stating that it was going to be hard and it might suck and she said yeah but it could super fun and adventurous.

I thought, “you’re right”; duh! It’s just as likely to suck as it is going to be fun. It’s all on my outlook of course!

My inner voice was telling me, oh Joey, you are in for a hard journey and it’s going to suck.

Well thanks inner voice for trying to protect me and make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside but you can shut up now because I’m excited for the future and all that it holds.

Easy peezy a little bit teasy!

What a great revelation!

I don’t own this revelation. It came from chapter one of The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.

There is a line in that chapter that stopped me right in my tracks. It states: “Basically, you re-create the outside world inside yourself, and then you live in your mind. What if you decided not to do this?”

When I read this I actually laughed out loud. It’s exactly what I needed to hear! In fact, it’s exactly what we all need to hear.

We have heard the phrase that we are our own worst enemy. That’s true to an extent. You are your own worst enemy but only with the voice in your head. The one that narrates every second and judges every step.

That voice really does not serve you. In fact it takes you right out of the present moment, and tries to put you in a time machine or judgement machine and that is not going to serve anyone very well.

Imagine your living your life without that voice! Or imagine being aware of and outside that little voice looking in.

Then you would be open and curious about everything that is happening in the here and now. More fun, adventure, relaxation, and way less anxiety, worry, judgement about this and that.

Since it’s impossible to not have the little voice, we have to figure out a way to know that the little voice is NOT who you are. Accept what it says and move on. What a wonderful gift to have the ability to that.

It’s a practice you can start today. Start paying attention to the little voice and recognize all the bullshit it makes up because most of it is just that. It’s judgment and protection based BS that really doesn’t serve you anymore.

Being aware of that little voice is a great way to get to get started. Just be aware of it. Listen to it. Be aware of the conversations you are having with yourself. You will start to notice how much they don’t serve you at all.

This morning when I looked in the mirror and that little voice said, “Whoa, you look old!”.

Did that serve me at all. I look old according to who? I guess according to that little voice. But that’s not me. I can be separate from that and so can you.

As an old friend of mine said, Onward Swartsenegger!

Stay frosty and Grind on!

JT