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Your Priorities Are Completely WRONG!

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Life lessons sneak up on you! You are rarely ready for them. It’s challenging to be so hyper aware that you can see the life lesson as clear as day.

It’s usually a foggy slap in the face when you realize that you have been hit by the life lesson teacher!

Embrace those moments and stack them up, journal about them, and share them with your friends, family, and others that are close to you. The more you get vulnerable, sign up for life, and experiment, the more life experience and lessons you are bound to have.

I’ve noticed that the mini life lessons that you run into either daily or weekly are often times the ones that fly under the radar and you are unaware of the impact. Important things always start with awareness!

We are taught from an early age to prioritize. Make sure to do the important things first. That’s the hard part isn’t it? What’s the most important thing? That can change from moment to moment. And often times what we think is the most important thing, is way off!

How do you know what that thing is supposed to be?

I ran into a strange occurrence at my household that might be able to shed some light on this confusing matter.

Sunday’s at our home is disconnected. We don’t look at any screens unless we all agree that a movie night is in store. We follow this strategy for about 90% of the time. Every once in a while, we cheat here and there. In fact, this last Sunday I cheated and looked at my texts in a weak moment and immediately regretted it as I saw a work text that took my mood down a notch. I was not happy that I broke the disconnected promise.

This is a work in progress. I gave myself a break!

Once my boys started stirring in the morning, I always get excited to give them their first hugs. It’s one of my favorite things!

While giving my oldest son, Mason, his hug, we started discussing the activities we were going to pursue that day. I personally had all kinds of things I wanted to accomplish. There were leaves to be raked, which meant an extra workout for me, there were a few errands to be made, the kitchen needed a good cleaning, and all kinds of “important” tasks.

A few days earlier, I mentioned to Mason that I was going to write a book. I had come up with an idea and title for this book and decided, why not, let’s write a book. So far, that’s as far as the idea has come. Since I mentioned this, Mason evidently wanted to write a book together. He has really been into writing these days and I’m sure he thought about the fact that this was the perfect opportunity.

He pitched writing a book together that Sunday morning.

In my head, I had all kinds of things I wanted to accomplish that day and writing a book wasn’t on the list. At least, that’s what I thought.

As Mason was lobbying for me to join this book writing adventure, I caught myself stating something very interesting.

I said, “Yes, let’s do this book, but we have some priorities we need to accomplish before that goes down.”

How was I determining what the priorities were? First off, they were the things I wanted to accomplish. Of course, to me, they were the MOST important items. Not because they really were the most important items, but because I said they were.

Interesting!

I was aware at that moment that it was my own personal perception of what was really important. There were no actual reasons for it. It was just that I had created this list and it was important damn it!

It then dawned on me. Here is my 7 year old son, begging me to write a book with him on a Sunday morning and I had others things that were supposedly more important! He was sending out a bid for attention and I was ignoring it!

One of the most common phrases I hear today from people is how busy they are. Busy, busy, busy! Calendars full! Too much shit going on! Never enough time to get together!

Isn’t that strange?

One of the top 5 regrets of the dying according to, Bronnie Ware is:

I wish I would have stayed in touch with my friends. She goes on to explain:

“Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

I want to highlight a very important line in that: “Many had become so caught up in their own lives…”

I would dare to say that we get caught up in the minutiae all the time! We think all these things are important when in fact, they are not at all.

I decided to write that book with my son. It’s called the End of the Surface. It’s actually not that bad! It’s a work in progress but I think it’s got potential!

I won’t regret that.

EVER!

That small little lesson, taught me something.

We truly think what we are doing is the most important thing ever! All the time! That’s how we get so busy. We let all kinds of things get in the way.

I want you to interrogate this reality! Ask yourselves today every hour, is this the most important thing? If I didn’t do this, would I regret it? This is a tough question that will sometimes give cloudy answers.

The one thing asking this question throughout the day will do is bring about some awareness of things we do that have very little importance or impact but yet they get put at the top of the list.

Dig deep with this! Don’t have any regrets. The most important things are sometimes staring you right in the face and you decide to not embrace them. You decide that your other randomly made up things take precedence and then look back at all the important moments that you missed because of it.

As always, grateful for all you!

Stay frosty and GRIND on!

JT


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