The Power Of Meditation (And How To)
Meditate. Meditate. Meditate. Sit down anywhere (I prefer public outdoor stairs), keep your eyes mostly closed, but do open them from time to time, and focus everything in your body towards feeling the moment, the present. If you’re unable to do that, focus on your breathing and try to clear your head from any kind of thoughts. The idea is to not force yourself to not think, but to have a lack of thought. Do not push or pull the thought, simply do not pay any attention to it, have no judgement what so ever, and simply let go.
„While we cannot control the events or circumstances of our life, we can control our reactions and what we give meaning to.“ –Tony Robbins
Dr. Herbert Benson, an American medical doctor, cardiologist, and founder of the Mind/Body Medical Institute at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, has explained that we all have a thing called „flight or fight“ response. The “fight or flight response” is our body’s primitive, automatic, inborn response that prepares the body to “fight” or “flee” from perceived attack, harm or threat to our survival. It’s the idea that in nature you would experience stress in short bursts. So for an example you might bump into a lion and get this huge adrenalin burst that shuts off your body’s repair mechanisms and directs all the energy in your body into being really alert. That would be good in nature, since it’s a necessity to survive. But what happens in modern society is that the threat is something like coming up with rent money or some kind of a social scenario that’s bothering you or different complexities of modern life in general? We don’t run away from lions anymore. This causes your flight or fight response to be at a low-level just like a background noise that’s almost unnoticeable and it stays there permanently. This causes people to get sick, shorten their lives and compromises their immune system. It’s basically a form of bad stress. Good stress would be something like going on a rollercoaster ride or watching an exciting sports game. Chronic low-level stress is not healthy for you. What meditation does, is activating a relaxation response. It flushes your adrenalin out of your system. Some people also belive that when you’re medidating, you’re recharging your energy that goes extremely deep into the cells.
So when you sit there, you might feel like you’re accomplishing nothing, but actually you are recharging your cells. You are soaking in good present energy.
Meditation is making you unreactive to everyday bullshit, which would just steal away your energy, what could be used for something useful.
What most people tend to do is they get addicted on either stimulus like Facebook, Twitter, Tinder, energy drink, gossip, what will people think of me, validation and stuff like that or they get addicted to lower consciousness like alcohol, drugs, fast food, carbs, pizza. They want to become unconscious. They are all just a distraction from the things that we need to do, nothing more. Meditation teaches you to stop the cycle of being addicted to stimulation and being unconscious. You’re training your mind to be present and not dependant to low vibration stimulations just like junk food.
In order to get rid of being addicted to lower stimulus, meditation helps a lot. It trains you to not need any kind of bullshit that is not optimal for you. If an obese guy decided that he is not going to consume any sugar for a month, then it takes tremendous willpower to commit and make the idea into reality. By practising meditation he would just lose the need to consume sugar, so he would not even need that much willpower. Meditation makes you lose the need to stimulate yourself with external things, because you’re able to do it simply with your mind alone.
“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” -Zen proverb
It’s easy to get discouraged during the first few minutes. “Oh this is stupid. I don’t have time for this! I got better things to do!” It’s important to barrel through this negative interpretation and just do it. Use a timer on your phone. Type in 5, 10, or 20 minutes depending on your dedication and just do it. You can start with less and continue with more when you get comfortable. Push yourself. This is definitely worth it.
Don’t get too caught up in theory that you need to be completely still and can’t react to for an example a fly landing on your head and stuff like that. You can move if you like, you can take care of the fly, but don’t pay too much attention to the small things. Many people belive that the noise coming from outside will totally ruin their meditation session. That’s not the case. When you hear something like a car driving by, acknowledge it, but don’t use any energy to keep it away from your head or pay attention to it. Any kind of attention will fuel the external stimulus and takes you more out of peace. Point being — it’s okay to be interrupted, it happens all the time. Just don’t get caught up upon it and pay as little attention to distractions as possible.
You can observe your thoughts or just clear your mind. It depends on your preference and what you might be needing at this point of your life.
There are many different methods for practising meditation. Feel free to pick anything.
It’s important to understand that the peace and tranquillity that you feel during meditation or even after, is your natural state. Remind yourself this every single time and no matter what happens in the world around you, you can always tap into this source of peace. Nothing can disturb this inner stillness and you can revisit it every time you like by just simply meditating. This is a tremendous help in life. You will react less to external things, you won’t worry so much, and you’ll have less anxiety. You will be able to let go.
Originally published at myrealdating.com on June 9, 2017.