I apologize in advance because you may not like my answer to your statements.
Basically, it comes down to the fact that sin has consequences attached to it that affects a person’s spirit, soul (mind, will and emotions) and body. What makes it worse is that the consequences for sin are passed down through a family line. So even if you started out perfect in your behavior and sinless, you’d probably have some or many of the problems you described as a result of what your parents, grandparents or older generations in the family line did during their lives. These ‘vicious cycles’ continue on until someone in the family has the courage and strength in Jesus Christ to break free.
At any rate, for deliverance from these problems I recommend the following books:
- John Loren Sandford: Transforming the Inner Man
- Derek Prince: Blessing or Curse: You Can Choose
- Perry Stone: Purging Your House, Pruning Your Family Tree
So just to be completely clear, Jesus Christ who died on the cross for you is the only One who delivers you and heals you. These books just increase your knowledge so that you can better understand what you’re dealing with and learn how to receive your healing and wholeness through faith and repentance.
May the Living God bless you and keep you in the love of Christ.