So if I am understanding your answer properly, the answer is no, you have not considered the possibility that you might be needed in attendance for the benefit of the other Christians in the church system. The reason for this is that you believe to be acting in obedience to Christ in not participating or at a minimum are within God’s permissive will in non-attendance. I can respect that answer.
Have you considered that perhaps you’ve become hard-hearted towards the church congregation crowd and it has caused you to ‘hear’ the Lord give you permission to opt out of the assembly? It’d make for a subtle form of deception, but not entirely impossible.
Please don’t misunderstand me. There is plenty wrong in the organized church. But we can’t fulfill our part in helping our fellow Christians if we aren’t in assembly with them. You mention Elijah and John and Paul being separated from the congregation; the Bible also gives us the example of Jeremiah who stayed with God’s people even when they were in open rebellion against God’s Word. The church is a lot like our natural family in that there isn’t really an option to opt out.
Obedience to God does take precedence over everything else. However, it’s really easy to mistake our own desires for spiritual leading if we aren’t careful. Whenever I find that God’s commands align perfectly with something I naturally want to do, it tends to make me suspicious that it may not really be from the Lord after all. Based on this discussion, I’m sure your experience with the Lord has been much the same.