Blinding Infatuation

Often times in our lives we get into periods and moments of utter infatuation: we love someone, or something so much, that the very thought of not attaining that thing gripes away at our ability to function day-to-day.

We get so caught up in our minds or that “thing” that we desire that we forget that life is constant and does not stop for anyone. Even though some people may perceive life starts and ends with them (i.e Trump). Life is but an on-going cycle that is met with calendar cycles, seasons, holidays etc.

Back-tracking to infatuation we get into facades of wanting that lucrative job, so bad that we say our lives are dependent on getting it when in reality you don’t get it, you move on. But no, that's not how our conscious minds work, we don’t get the job we beat ourselves up about it, and it haunts us and then you have to “Settle” for something you desire much less. This is how our desires in the “working world” can blind us, and create this inability to maximize our full potential.

I think if everyone had the chance to do what they truly loved we would be a more efficient society and there would be more widespread happiness. I understand we can’t all swoon to the “Google’s or Facebook’s” but what if society was, so connected companies can model their cultures and benefits after one another. (Because often times people don’t love the core product of a social media site, they love the benefits, the culture, the people). Extract those aspects of companies and intersperse them into other companies, creating a much more balanced community.

I know many may chime that this isn’t very idealistic, but who creates the ideals and the norms of society, the community and people themselves. If there is more of a balance at the micro level, we can scale that balance to the macro level. Why are communities at an imbalance, because of the access of knowledge and exposure is imbalanced. How can someone who grew up never understanding technology critically, have the same chances as someone who grew up with it? It’s nearly impossible.

We need social movements, to provide awareness for communities of people. Communities of people, which does not purely boil down to, a race problem, but instead people affected in areas. Often times who are creating the standards for “diversity?” People who are viewing diversity from a birds eye perspective, and hope to resolve the issue, without entirely knowing the real issue at the core. Have you lived in an area of lower socio-economic standing? Did you come from an area in, which the notion of violence and death was so prevalent, working at a place like, “Google” wasn’t even in the slightest thought? Live through it, or completely put yourself in the shoes of others, before you attempt to come up with solutions.

Sure sometimes we have “self-made” success stories, but often times they had great mentors, or indirectly had some type of guidance that led them to their success. We need more collectivism as a society to make more of those success stories a reality. I understand “you made it,” but what are you doing now that you “made it,” those next steps define who you are.

This leads to another notion of infatuation in which we get infatuated with people. We put celebrities, professionals, families on these pedestals that we must measure up to, and if we don’t its hard to shake off feelings of inferiority. This infatuation is blinding us, so we can’t pursue that level of comfort with ourselves. If you compare yourself to Obama, chances are you are going to be disappointed. Striving to be like someone, but still maintaining your own identity is essential to your happiness.

Infatuation with a love interest could also mean you are in a relationship and you get so caught up in the “now” you forget the past and future, because you’re blinded by what is in front. Or even that love interest that you may have pictured a life with, but can’t get past a certain level of comfort with. Either you are just friends, haven’t actually spoken before, or there may even be some type of complication. You get so caught up in the “what if” situations in your mind that opportunities and chances slip by you. With jobs, with love is there truly a “right moment?” If you care about something pursue it, if you want something don’t say in a year or two, say “today.”

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