Always appreciate the feedback and thoughts, L C.
There may be a gap in what I’d meant and what was understood. Or, perhaps not, we’ll see.
My mention of wasted energy concerning pronouns wasn’t in terms of transgender individuals. The friend I’d mentioned was Chris and is now Kristi. I refer to her in that section despite having always known them as him. I’m totally fine with that, no qualms at all.
The issue I feel is undermining meaningful interactions and discussions (the sort I just mentioned) is that of gender fluidity in which persons attempt to, in my estimation, play overly fast and loose with our shared, common diction.
You’re right concerning the dynamism of language. It is, after all, only a tool. And, as such, must never be the primary thing that determines what projects we set out towards as a society. The typical “if all you have is a hammer” scenario.
That said, while the ‘rules’ can (and should) be amended, modified, and changed over the course of time, much of the gender-fluid discussion I see taking place is of the playground middle-of-the-game rules changing sort. That is to say, nowhere near adequate thought, much less time, has been given to the change and, to make matters worse, is being used to penalize players who had no clue about the sudden shift to begin with.
This then becomes a distraction from us giving proper weight to Kristi simply wanting to be Kristi, referred to as her and using the bathroom in peace. At minimum I’d like to get that part of things right before dealing with the 60 or some-odd preferred (maybe only for today?) non-binary, genderqueer pronouns.
Maybe this helps cover the gap that was present? Or perhaps it just widens it! Either way, always enjoy the discussion.