Who is “Broken People”?
In your lifetime you may have heard the term “Broken People” be used as a label for someone that have been “Beaten down by the reality of life” as i would describe it and for some have negative connotations attached to the term itself, but have you ever wondered who is this “Broken People”?
I can’t definitely say that i am one of them (because the term also is very vague) but from my experience, i’m pretty sure that when one day there is a clear distinction to who isn’t and who is, i will fall into the latter.
From my own personal experience, “Broken People” can be defined as anyone who has suffered severe mental trauma during their lifetime. That’s the simplest definition for it. The trauma can be from a broken heart, divorced parents, physical abuse or sexual abuse, or anything that even had the slightest chance of inflicting psychological trauma to someone. Why is that?Because (at least for me) anything that happens in life to someone even if it happened exactly the same way to another person, both people would react totally different way. Their psychological condition, the environment, family or personal background and culture, all this makes for tiny little variables that accumulates to different branches of response that someone could have. Some just suck it up and pretend nothing happened, making it just a ticking time bomb waiting to explode sooner or later, Some reacts to it instantly and possibly down the road making them become a very volatile and sometimes even violent person. But i do believe the latter rarely happens because in most cases, the psychological trauma that happens to “Broken People” happened during their childhood.
All this aside, can you tell “Broken People” just by looking at them? i believe so, if you have the observing skill you need for it. Because when you know where to look, you will find “Broken People” very distinct from other people yet they are so good at adapting many people fail to recognize them. So here’s a few signs..(However if after reading these signs you find yourself in a relationship with or about to have one with people with these signs, these are no means as a ”Relationship Red Flag”. If you can put up with it, you might end up saving someone’s life)
- Whoever you think they are, Think the opposite
“Broken People” don’t like being broken, especially if people know they are broken. So they will try their hardest to put up a mask to fool people that they are not, so don’t be one of those people. If you see them so happy everyday, like they have no problems in life, they smile all the time, they laugh so much. You should be suspicious of this. No people is THAT happy. Moreover if they are the one who is the Jokester of the group. This is just an obvious sign that something more is lurking inside them. Have you ever had a jokester in your group that doesn’t have a past trauma or some personal problem whatsoever? Exactly.
2. They never share their past
This is the tricky part (i know this because i did this to all my friends), have you ever had a friend that you’re so close to, and when another person asks you about their life you can’t answer a single question? The most you know about them is things you actually ask them and not things they share on their own. This is a self-defense mechanism for “Broken People”. They can make you feel like you are the closest friend to them but still you don’t know anything about them and some people seems content with this. This is just another way for “Broken People” to sort people out, they have very bad trust issues with people and hates sharing their past because it makes them feel vulnerable and weak. This way they know who genuinely cares for them, or just some other passerby in their life.
3. Most of them are “Alpha’s” in their group
As i have mentioned, “Broken People” HATES feeling vulnerable and weak. They don’t accept pity from other people. Perfect is the only option for them. People sometimes see them as a reliable person, because they naturally never trust anyone and so are accustomed to do everything on their own. That’s why they tend to be the dominant one in the group, because they always seems to be a step ahead of everyone else.
4. They are calm, sometimes too calm
“When reality hits you so hard, it’s hard for you to be surprised anymore” This rings so hard with “Broken People”.
Have you ever wondered how that one guy can stay so calm and collected when if any other people is in their position would panic and throw the tables around? “Broken People” doesn’t get surprised by life that’s it. No matter how messy it is, “Broken People” will just be sitting there in the corner, thinking and finding way to fix the problem. They are just wired differently, when others are too busy thinking about the problem, they think about the solution. That’s just how they get by in life.
These are just some signs, there are more definitely but i think these are the ones that you can apply to anyone. Every person reacts differently to trauma and where they are in life will also makes a difference in their personality. But i hope that these 4 signs can help you see and hopefully help those “Broken People” around you.
