Setting Your Partner Free

John Green
Nov 5 · 5 min read

We can release our partner from the fixed image that lives in our minds of who we think they are. There is no such person as the one we imagine in our head. The real person is different from our version. Rather than hold on so tightly to our ideas of how they are supposed to behave, it’s much easier to let go of those ideas and discover and watch who our partner wants to be every day. We can give them the space to be who they choose to be every day. I’m not going to explain how to fix our partners; we already have plenty of ideas about that. This article is about setting our partners free to redefine and…

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Former social worker, software engineer, current writer, musician and grandfather

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