I think somewhere I knew subliminally there was something not ideal about my choice of words there. So, apologies if I have wasted your time trying to get to fully realising this.

The idea that males simply cannot do certain things associated with child-rearing is contentious. And I am aware that some men might voice this idea with the intention of leaving things to the woman. Ironically though, I was coming mostly from the complementary idea that some things a male’s physique is better suited to are by definition not ideal chores for women — and especially not around childbirth. Arguably as a consequence, there is a natural division of chores.

In the context of modern cultures, you are right to point out that there is little that men cannot do — however in purely biological terms, there is actually nothing at all that the male needs to do after having sex. This is obviously far from true for the female.

As regards the idea that males are seen by many women as emotionally bereft or insensitive as well as generally less suited to the finer points of early child-rearing, I think this is a widespread view in society — without really knowing whether it is justified or not. But you only need to look at typical differences in male and female reactions to the babies of other people to get a feel for the idea that there might be something in this. Learned or innate? Who knows?

What exactly is it you are referring to in saying your experience contradicts what I express?