Why I Unfriended Half of My Facebook Friends And Why You Should Too
There it is. It’s the next morning (afternoon) after a friend’s super fun birthday bash from the night before where you met a whole bunch of pretty cool people you otherwise probably would have never met and you had a couple meaningful, 5-minute conversations at some point in the night. Within the next couple hours after you get mutually tagged in an out-of-focus photo, you get the Friend Request. Obviously hit ‘Confirm’ because that guy was a cool guy. And so begins our digital friendship where we’ll see eachother atleast 2.36 times a year and comment/like on each others photos.
Now, I don’t know about you, but all my friends have birthdays this year. In fact, they have them every year. That’s going to be a lot of new Facebook friend requests not to mention other social functions with more cool people.
I easily click “confirm” or “accept” on anything and everything that comes my way. Afterall, I don’t want to be rude and it’s my friend’s friend for goodness sake. So what’s the big deal?
In my journey to intentionally grow as an entrepreneur, at certain times, I’ve found myself completely out of time. Not just physically out of time but mentally out of time. I want to build small businesses for future growth but I also want to watch my son do the same puzzle 10 times in a row. If this sounds like a mid-life crisis 101 essay, well maybe you should hear me out any way.
Everyday, there’s a new gadget with promises of happiness, services that were better than the one you just used, cryptocurrencies with more potential than bitcoin, friends who are having way more fun than you and political things about political correctness that blow your mind. And everyday, we engage with these things whether we really want to or not. We catch someone’s post and we’re easily livid, or we see something that someone has and we’re bummed we don’t have it. The truth is, we may be giving these things plenty of passive time because we’re not focused enough on our passions or goals.
Now I know this doesn’t happen all the time, but for me, it does happen. I will find myself writing a long comment about something in response to a friend of a friend whom I disagree with and for what purpose? Well it could change something, but we all know how it usually ends. Often times, it’s pointless.
Hey check it out, there’s this company giving away some cool merch on their social media! Heck yea, here’s a follow to that company for letting me be in the drawing! I need to win that thing! If this is you, read on.
According to a new study from Microsoft Corp., people now generally lose concentration after eight seconds, highlighting the affects of an increasingly digitalized lifestyle on the brain. — Time.com
THE LESS THEORY
Recently, I’ve decided to work on my FOCUS. In our world of attention seeking everything, I find it hard to focus on one thing. In fact, you might even be having a hard time focusing on this story. In fact, you might not even have gotten this far because this is TL;DR.
I’m working on my focus not by spending more time on the things I want to focus on but rather figuring out how to focus LESS on the things that are just not that important. For starters, I’ve targeted my energy on Facebook.
Last week, I had 2600 friends. I now have just around 900. Damn.
Well Johnny that’s just ridiculous; why on Earth did you have that many ‘non-essential friends to begin with? Go through your list, and see how many people you can unfriend. You might, like me, be very surprised. And no, I didn’t unfriend because I didn’t agree politically or for any other lifestyle or opinion driven purpose. But that’s totally fine if you do. Balls in your court.
I’ve given plenty of time to each person whom I’ve been Facebook friends with. Whether I interacted with their photos or their posts at some point in time. Even Unfriending that many people took a lot of time and effort. Glad that part’s over with.
BUT, I DON’T EVEN USE FACEBOOK
The Less Theory, isn’t really about Facebook but rather giving yourself a couple hours to really think about your distractions (haha) and figuring out how to cut some of them out of your life so that you have more time to focus on things that matter.
Ever click that “promotions” button on your Gmail? There’s a pile of stuff that you won’t “unsubscribe to” because of FOMO. What if I miss the sale of the century? Well chances are, a lot of those things you are subscribed to, you don’t even open. They’re just piling up, unread but they still want your attention. Every month I unsubscribe to stuff. I’ve been doing this for months and I can’t even remember the things I cut off the month before. Talk about non-essentials.
Now you might not consider these things distractions at all, but you do have some that could use some trimming and only you know what those things truly are. Prune it down. It’s ironic how often I tell people how busy I am and yet I’m somehow magically able to give time to distractions. My family and passions deserve more than half my attention. Wouldn’t you agree?
DISTRACTIONS CUT, NOW WHAT?
Here’s the transition opportunity. The last thing you want to do is replace distractions with more distractions. Don’t screw this up! Now that you got some time back, the follow up is major key. Be ready with a plan and realistic goals that you want to focus more on, and put them into motion. If you need some tips on kicking off with some investments, see my other stories.
I’m spending less time on my distractions and finding a lot more time to write! In fact, you’re only reading this because I’m in the constant process of making “less is more” opportunities. As for the unfriended friends, none have really noticed, and I’ve only gained time.
Balance it out the best you can but get disciplined. Grab a friend to hold you to it. 2018 is coming and the productive, smart investing, goal oriented YOU is up to bat. #homerun
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