A Happy Journey — life choices and solid habits to improve happiness and wellbeing.
It’s one of the most insatiable pursuits, happiness. And seriously addictive!! We spend our entire lives searching for it, and we get varied results from a process of trial and error. What makes the search even more difficult is that the things we think make us happy in life, will invariably change as our motivations shift — When I was 16, drinking Frosty Jack’s in a bus stop at 11pm on a Tuesday with my best mates was as good as it got!! 10/10. Now… Not so much. Now happiness looks more like a dinner party with a few nearest and dearest (and sorry Frosty, you’ve been replaced by wine, lot of wine…)
It’s important to note that I am not setting out to tell you how happy I am and you should therefore do the stuff I do to feel like I do, in fact, it’s far from that — I consistently find at points in my life where I am unhappy, but I think that’s a really important thing to recognise in yourself because it is a signpost for change: whether it’s with your job or in a relationship or in a group of people that may be bad for you.
Happiness is sometimes tricky to find and a lot of the time people find themselves in situations where it’s just not possible to feel fulfilled, satisfied, joyous, loved, autonomous, passionate, brave, human. If you have ever found yourself in a situation like this, as I have, you will know it can often take quite a bit of courage to make the changes necessary to rethink your approach and have another go at it.
The things that make us happy are very much linked to our motivations. So across the sample of anyone who cares to read this, there will be a myriad of different things that will make each of you happy and what’s more, those things will change over time.
Because of this, advising people on how to increase their happiness is a difficult thing to do. This however, shall not deter me — after all, I get my motivation from the seemingly impossible.
With this in mind, I am writing a six Chapter blog which details six different things that any person, of any disposition, with any current motivations, can do across a lifetime that will make you feel better about life.
The contents of these chapters aren’t arbitrary recommendations that you might find in the weekend pull outs of the Sun (which I hate) — written without reliability, reference or substantiation to the grand sweeping generalisations they make. No! All chapters have had numerous psychological journals written supporting their benefits and by god there will be Harvard references at the bottom of each page.
Finally, as we start this adventure together, I urge patience… To quote the slightly crass but brilliant Tim Minchin “Happiness is like an orgasm, if you think about it too much, it goes away.” Happiness is not a destination, but a journey and you will find it everywhere if you look.
The next chapter will be on Relationships and how they are essential to our happiness whether you are an introvert or extrovert.