I have to admit, I cannot live without my phone.
Vicky Gao

Great perspective Vicky. I’m definitely not anti technology, or anti social media. For me, Medium has provided an avenue for introspection, self expression and connection that I find very meaningful. Facebook has allowed me to connect with people I really care about that would have drifted from my memory forever. I’m just challenging the instances where easy, less meaningful (subjective of course) options replace harder, more meaningful ones. For example, let’s say it’s your birhtday and 10 people write on your Facebook wall. I’m guessing that most of those people, let’s say 8 of them, would have never said anything to you on your birthday without Facebook. So in this sense, that’s great. I just don’t like the 2 people who would have called you but now use Facebook because it is easier, and in my opinion, a live phone call is a more meaningful connection than a note on your wall (side note: Facebook has started texting me on people’s birthdays, and I can “reply 1 to automatically leave a happy birthday message on their wall”). I think where we diverge is in the importance of seeing what is going on in people’s lives (this is not really about my piece, just a tangent). What people post online, in most cases, is a superficial representation of the “what” of their lives. But you rarely get the “how,” the “why,” the slow moments, the bad moments, the struggles, the failures, the challenges, all the things that make us human and make having a close and vulnerable relationship worthwhile. I love that I can see what my sister is doing in Germany, but seeing those pictures will never compare to our hourlong midnight conversations about the nuances and challenges and beauty of life. Anyways, I do think your “anti anti social media” perspective is a compelling and in some ways valid one — you should write about it! I’d love to read it.