How to Know When to Be Assertive With Your Team

  • Passive: These are the individuals who avoid conflict, get taken advantage of, and apologize often.
  • Aggressive: Many people view aggressive individuals as a self-righteous bully who is quick to criticize others and be dismissive of other’s opinions.
  • Passive-Aggressive: Despite wanting to avoid confrontation, passive-aggressive people can be manipulative and they play games with others to extort power.
  • Assertive: This is believed to be a happy medium between passive and aggressive. Those who are assertive communicate their feelings and opinions, but also seek out win-win scenarios.

When to be assertive with your team.

Getting everyone behind a plan or goal.

Motivating your team.

  • Encourage your team to take ownership of a project by giving them the freedom to experiment with various solutions.
  • Don’t just let the aggressive and self-confident people talk. Give everyone a chance to speak, especially the passive and quiet individuals.
  • Make everyone on your team a leader by assigning different responsibilities to different team members.
  • Set a good example by being positive, sharing your thoughts, and listening to your team.
  • Know if they are an entreprenuer, help them to be an intropreneur within your company.

Keeping everyone in check.

Conflict resolution.

Assertiveness tips to try with your team.

  • Believe in yourself. You’re a valuable member of the team and you shouldn’t let anyone take advantage of you.
  • Control your emotions. Don’t let your emotions consume you. If you feel angry, frustrated, or disappointed find away to release those feelings by meditating or going for a walk.
  • Set clear boundaries. Glenn Shepard, president of Glenn Shepard Seminars, says, “Your employees are not mind readers.” That’s why, “You have got to clearly, clearly, clearly define what you expect and what you will not tolerate.”
  • Directly and clearly address issues. Don’t gossip or allow team members to talk about each behind their backs. Be honest and direct by addressing any issues in the workplace
  • Speak in the first person. This illustrates that you’re expressing your feelings and not someone else’s.
  • Use positive body language. Stand up straight and make eye contact.
  • Learn to say no. Sometimes you can’t accommodate team members. And, there’s nothing wrong with that. At the same time, you also have to respect the fact that there will be times when a team member also has to say “no.”
  • Hold everyone accountable. This may be tough, but it’s not right or fair for poor employees to get get away with inappropriate behavior while good employees have to clean up after them.
  • Rehearse. Plan out your conversation by knowing your main points and being prepared for any questions or objections.
  • Chose your battles. As Shepard says, “A smart manager knows that it’s better to lose the battle, sometimes, in order to win the war.”




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Entrepreneur, Writer, Online Marketing Guy, Blogger, Husband and Full Time Computer Nerd. Founder @Calendar and @Due

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