Hey Kris, I worry I would let you down as a romantic partner.
In fact, I think all guys would. We’re human too. Like you said, we all look for security.
I worry that any guy you meet who advertises that he is secure is actually especially insecure — to the point of needing to lie about his internal state.
The same goes for guys that appear secure to you. While they may have made more progress than most in their lives, in every case, they will still be insecure.
I think the most insecure guys will be best at hiding their insecurity, coming off as secure, but not actually being that way deep down.
If you ask me, honesty is sexy. And since we’re all insecure with ourselves, why don’t we just tell the truth about it?