I’d like to share this amazing lesson we had in Theology the other day. We were assigned a reading titled “Problematic of Permanence Haughey” and here’s the key quote in the reading
While permanence seems to be a threat to spontaneity, it could and should have the opposite effect. It should foster spontaneity. Once one’s life has taken a definitive direction, one should be more, not less, capable of growth. For among other things, people will know where one stands and can begin to relate more deeply to the person.
I was eager to share my insight to our class in Theology that day, however shyness overcame me so I wasn’t able to share my take on that insight.
This insight proves valuable mainly to people who are going to get married or already married since it was the intended audience of the topic.
But even if I am just in a 6 month relationship, I found that this insight resonated with me as well.
The article argues that in permanence, there is spontaneity. When we are surrender ourselves to one person, it doesn’t mean our freedom lessens. It actually means we gain more freedom!
Back when I was single, I used to think that people who were in relationships weren’t actually free anymore to do other things since they have less time for themselves and others. In my view back then they were chained to their partners.
Now I admit that the young me was very wrong.
Last Friday and Saturday March 2–3, I joined the ACCENTURE student leadership conference and before I embarked on that journey, I shared to my girlfriend this realization of mine.
“Alam mo, I’m thankful for you. Dati kapag sumasali ako sa mga conference, talk or kung ano man, umaasa ako at lagi ko sinasabi na sana may chix na kasama. Now that I have you, I can focus more on gaining friends and gaining more knowledge”
I really did mean it. Now that I have someone that cares for me and someone I care for, my mind frees up for higher order thinking!
When I look at other parts of my student life I also noticed that I actually gained more freedom when I was “chained” to this permanence.
I used to go out fridays and saturdays looking for “love”. But now that I don’t have to chase girls, I get to focus on writing, reading and working on other more important things!
I’m not directly saying that get a girlfriend and your life will instantly get better. I just want to say that this concept shared to us in theology was beautiful and when I looked at my life right now, I found that it does ring true!
I would like to thank my professor in Theology Simone Lorenzo for sharing this wonderful lesson and shout out to my girlfriend Bea Pitargue
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