When we miscommunicate

We talk daily, but lucky are those who can be understood. I say lucky because it is not enough to speak, but to communicate well. There is a big difference among what I feel, what I can express through words and what is socially admitted. Moreover, there is the perception of human being. most of us can’t see the reality, but the part that we perceive and the words that we can understand.No matter what your academic or intellectual level is you can’t not be sure that the other person understands you. So, what you can do about it.

1. Use more image: Great story tellers seduce easier than the rest of us. the simple reason us because we remember more story tan fact. If you can speak and use some anecdotes or stories, you will help your listener to grasp your idea.
2. Avoid jargon: Every discipline has jargon. They allow their expert to communicate among themselves and comprehend their topic. Nevertheless, what is routine for you may not be for me. between people of the same academic background it is expected to use a language that the profane may not understand. Nevertheless, if we can information to pass from one discipline to another, or from a higher expertise to a lower we must use a language that is communicable.
3. Repeat or use different words to say the same: That sounds like a lost of time. we say something, then we repeat it during the conversation with different words. Nevertheless, it isn’t. First, because less is more. We can’t overwhelm our audience with information. It is better to choose three or four points with good examples than nine or ten without example that they will forget quickly. Don’t speak from what you understand, but what the other part can handle.
4. Try to say it with fun: when there is tension in the communication we raise the other person’s resistance. People doesn’t like to be imposed. They will do whatever they can to refuse or deny our opinion even it is good for them. So, let them speak first. Try to understand their standpoint. Help them understand yours. Then look for a bridge or common ground between the two. People resist to their enemy and follow their friend. Be the friend. People also accept a new idea when they are relaxed. Create that environment where both of us are calm before we speak.
5. Listen more and speak less: Nobody can spend the entire time speaking. If they do so, they give us the opportunity to find valuable information to ask question or reply to them. It is impossible to speak to them without knowing what they need.It is a common mistake because we think we are answering them while we are answering ourselves. We imagine they must need this. Nevertheless, they could need that. There is always a big difference between what we think — our imagination- and what it is — the reality-.
6. Let time passes: our current generation is not patient. we want everything NOW. We always forget the factor time that allows everything to happen. it can take five second or five years, but it needs time. to understand someone and communicate better with him or her also requires time. Time to listen to him or her. Time to understand his or her reality. Time to know what to reply. Time to realize if he or she is ready for the truth. to let the times passes is not a waste of time. It is wisdom.

Hopefully those insights can help you. we are social being. we need to stay together, but what is the point when we can’t communicate to each other. At school they ask us to speak. In our community they ask us to stand up and speak. Nevertheless, they are not enough. we need to know what to say and how to say it. Most of the time how to say it is more important that what we have to say. I wish we can find tips to communicate better and avoid many struggles.