Love — You’re Doing it Wrong

We’re all looking for someone we can love and who loves us too. We’ll want to spend as much time as possible with them because we think they make us happy. We’ll do everything to keep that person in our life because we’re afraid that we might never find someone like them. It’s a little desperate if you think about it.

We become attached and refuse to let go, even if the relationship is bad for us. Eminem gives a wonderful (and a little extreme) example in his song “Desperation”.

Glorification of this state is very common in love songs and movies. It’s portrait as the greatest source of happiness a human being can achieve in its life, but there’s an equal amount of songs and movies about the pain that love brings. Pain and love seem to be inseparably intertwined. Fortunately, pain and love don’t have anything to do with each other. On the contrary, real love removes all pain forever.

Real love is the love you feel for everyone; real love is inclusive, not exclusive. With real love, you love the people who love you, but you also love the people who hate you; you love the person you just met, and you love the person who wronged you; you love the people who help you, and you love the people who stand in your way.

I know this seems crazy to almost everyone, but please hear me out because just considering this idea can improve your life immensely.

The reason why you should love everyone is simple: it makes your life so muuuuuuuuuch better.

Usually, when you hear about loving your enemy, you’re supposed to do it because it makes you a better person, but, personally, I don’t have an idea what a good person is, and I’m not trying to be one. I just do what feels right to me. If it benefits others, that’s great, but if it doesn’t, that’s perfectly fine with me too. I trust myself to make the right decision, and starting to love everyone has made my life so much better.

To help you understand why universal love is so great for you, let me explain what love actually is. First and foremost love is just a feeling that’s located in your chest close to where your heart is. It’s warm and fuzzy and very wonderful, and that’s pretty much it.

You can direct that feeling towards another person and when you do that, it’s usually accompanied with wishes of well-being for the other person.

Since love is a feeling, it doesn’t have to be caused by someone else; you can create it consciously all by yourself. That means you can choose to generate this feeling for everyone you meet and deal with, even if you don’t particularly like them. At first, it will take a conscious effort, but over time, it’ll become a habit and you’ll be able to have that wonderful feeling all the time.

Feeling this way will have a big influence on every area of your life. Other people will feel more comfortable in your presence, for example. Your feelings will influence their own feelings and make them feel better. They’ll associate feeling good with your presence and they will want to spend more time with you. You’ll also be less likely to spend money on things you don’t need because you don’t need them to feel good. Your Productivity is also likely to increase because you’ll have more energy available to you.

Most people wait for someone else to love them first. We find the people who like us more attractive than others. But if everyone waits for the other person to make the first step, no one moves. You can be one of the few who has the courage to love first. It’s a very special gift you can give to anyone you please and, over time, you will want to give that gift to everyone, but don’t try to force it. At first, focus on the people where loving them feels natural.

With universal love, you will also increase your confidence and honesty. You won’t need to pretend to be someone else just to find love. You’ll already have plenty of love and can be truly yourself in your interactions with others. This confidence will help you greatly to attract a romantic partner who is right for you which you’re probably longing for. We all want someone to share our lives with.

Fortunately, even though you love everyone, you can still have a romantic relationship with a special someone. You can have someone you spend most your time with, someone whom you trust the most and who you share everything with. As I said, love is just the feeling and you can have still have a monogamous relationship, but your happiness won’t come from that person anymore. This frees you to have a healthy relationship that you can end without pain if your interests start to interfere with each other for some reason. You can separate without any hard feelings and still stay in each other’s lives should you wish to do so.

Not depending on your partner will also allow you to maintain healthy boundaries. You’ll be able to share honestly how you feel about the things your partner does and you’ll be able to find healthy compromises. That alone solves at least 90 percent of the problems couples usually have.

So you see, universal love actually improves the things you might be afraid of losing if you give your love to everyone. You can try this for yourself, you don’t have to take my word for it, and there’s no risk involved with trying. You can do this all by yourself, and you don’t have to tell anyone about it. The next time you’re with someone, try what it’s like to feel love for them. At first, you might not notice any changes, but if you keep trying, your heart will soon start to open up a little. Don’t try to push it.

Thank you for taking the time to read everything. I appreciate it.