To All Mothers:
“You deserve all of the love in the world!”
Happy Mother’s Day to all the beautiful mothers out there and to all the women that fill the role of being a mother as well! You deserve all of the love in the world!
On this day, of all days, we are aware of the contributions of the special people in our lives that fill the role of being a mother. They have given, they have provided, they have put up with our shit, and they have sacrificed. And it is the latter of this non-comprehensive list that I’d like to address here today.
You (mothers) have provided us with innumerable amounts of priceless gifts; life-lessons, unconditional love, self-acceptance, and even shit we don’t deserve. In doing so, you have sacrificed so much, and for that we cannot be anything but grateful.
Giving too much
But how much is too much? If you were on a plane with your child and an unfortunate circumstance occurred where the air in the cabin had been depleted and the only source of oxygen was the sole mask dangling in front you, what would you do? Like most mothers, you would instinctively fit the mask around your child. This is you unflinchingly sacrificing yourself. And as commendable as this act is, this is where you have given too much. I don’t need to tell you the consequences of your depletion of oxygen in this scenario.
If you had first taken the mask to your own face, you would have given yourself a breath to hold and then you could have fitted the mask to your child. If you had taken a moment to save yourself, you would have been able to continue to help your child for the remainder of the flight. In other words, it is by giving to yourself first that you gain the strength to continue to give to others. I’ll say it again, it is by loving yourself first that you are able to continue loving others.
Often, some people, even some mothers, may not feel they need love, some even feel as if they are not worthy of love or they don’t deserve love. But, and you shouldn’t need anyone to tell you this, you do need love and you are worthy of it and you certainly do deserve it!
By always putting yourself last and dedicating yourself to always taking the short stick, you begin manifesting this idea that there is a lack of resources. You believe there is a finite amount of love to go around. You begin to think that you deserve the very least and that you are not entitled to anything great. This thought process is a fallacy! It will lead you down a road of contempt. There is an abundance of love to go around. Permit yourself to deserve more out of life. Allow yourself to be worthy of the love you deserve. To do this, you must learn to love yourself and be ok with that.
How and how much you love yourself dictates how and how much others love you. If you don’t give to yourself, you create this expectation that others need not give to you. So, be ok, be more than ok, with loving yourself. Don’t feel bad for it. When you feel bad for it, you feed the fallacy of being undeserving of love; fucking stop that! When you love yourself to a certain degree, you create a baseline of the love you deserve; you create the expectation of the amount of love others feel inclined to give to you.
When you accomplish this, when you love yourself to the point that you’re filled with love, you may soon overflow. And when you overlfow, you will radiate this love to those around you and you will love like you’ve never loved before. You will give like you’ve never given before.
You deserve love
So, I say again, you deserve all of the love in the world. Happy Mother’s Day to all the beautiful mothers out there and to all the women that fill the role of being a mother as well!
Originally published at www.hivelessmind.com on May 14, 2017.