The one thing every entrepreneur or someone struggling to make a change should remember
From a man who advised both Woodrow Wilson and FDR
…and even Dr. Seuss used his quote,
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” — Bernard M. Baruch
The world has its structure and you have your place in it…or that’s how society collectively feels. The huge struggle in today’s world to try and better yourself seems counterproductive, as “ignorance is bliss” has felt like the norm (because it’s easier) as vast amounts of information available at our fingertips is hurled at us faster than we can process it. All while algorithms aimed to market specifically what we want (based on likes/comments), in the sake of the almighty dollar, take us only towards people who have the same ideologies as we do and thus our abilities to have differences of opinions, and debate them, has never been further apart.
This helps when you have an established business, but what about when you are trying to find a new market? Or go against the current (political) norm? Oh it can be downright terrifying for some people given that our ability to converse has become somewhat non-existent, cause heaven forbid someone might have something critical to say, which could hurt your feelings: hence why there is much dialogue behind a screen and very little actual face to face communication.
I started a GoFundMe account for my sister who is going through a divorce:
These are my sisters children. My sister a few months ago made the hard decision to leave her husband of 10 years…www.gofundme.com
Am I doing the right thing? I don’t know. My sister was a stay-at-home mom raising 4 children who made the move to leave her husband. She currently has a roof over her head, but has no vehicle and is currently very short on funds to pay for bare essentials, let alone pay her divorce lawyer to do any work for her. I have been through struggles of my own the last few years and don’t have the funds myself to help her out, or I would: so I give whatever else of myself I can. I felt compelled to act when she became very stressed out over her money situation while also dealing with the emotional turmoil.
It’s interesting in society that collectively we want to reach down and help the poor (or appear as we do), and many rich in today’s world get government handouts, but then who is to help the middle class when they are struggling? Is it “fair” to get ostrisized when someone steps out of the “norms” society has instilled? “I am begging for moula” as someone put it, when I became frustrated that a few people that were having a problem with what I did contacted my sister instead of me.
So should someone not get help until they become “the working poor”? I don’t know…I do know that unfortunately in divorce everyone always has to choose a side and one finds out who ones true friends are: which just compounds onto an already stressful situation. I also know that kids usually become lost in the mix…almost used as bargaining chips…and they are the ones who usually lose out in the end. And if the youth of today are our future, then divorce affects us all. Exactly why I started the campaign in the beginning, worried mostly about my nieces and nephew.
The idea of a handout crossed my mind many times…I had that ideal in my head when I was undertaking an entrepreneurial endeavour years ago. I didn’t want to ask people for help because of the belief that my family’s business, and therefore I, had money. I felt caught between a rock and a hard place because that ideology was instilled in me, even though I was not really a part of the core business at all. So I have seen the result of not seeking for help, both in business and in my own mental health, and it is much worse than sticking your neck out. Believe me.
And then I also read stories such as this:
"Do you see, it's over there," said Gerry Lowe, pointing out across the cove as we stood on the shores of the Bay of…www.nationalobserver.com
…and realize that the rich have no shame in getting your money (with your tax dollars), and lots of it, so why should I? Especially since within the GoFundMe write up, I include that I am simply looking for short term relief for my sister, and if the ending situation is desirable, I want to start a charity with the donations to help another young women who was in my sisters situation and is scared to leave for strictly the financial implications.
I believe that if you have a passion for something and think that what you are doing is better for the world, you need to avoid the naysayers because they will always be there; yet also hear their concerns. My first write up, I probably did come out a little strong against another party, even though that was not my intention at all in the moment. It was pointed out to me by a detractor that I could have shed someone else in a negative light. Looking back, perhaps my passion for my sister and her kids got the best of me and I did exactly what I didn’t want to do…so I changed it. Not everyone who disagrees with you is your enemy and often there are truths coming from “the other side”.
We are all going to make mistakes and if you admit them, change slightly and move on, I believe this world can be changed for the better (if only the US Republicans could do this, perhaps the world could feel more at ease). In the same breath, do not be scared of your detractors.
Be humble and kind, but push forth with strength and confidence. If you do enough good, you will eventually becomes someone who matters a lot more than you think you do. Have faith and believe in yourself!