On the Journey 001

It has been a long time since I wandered in this direction, but it’s time to face the fact that I am working on a book project again. Not that this is a surprise to me; I’ve been researching my topic for over a year and have spent the past several months agonizing over how to whip that research into a coherent outline.

The surprise, if any, is that I feel the need once more to reflect on this writing process as a way of continuing to move things forward. When I was focused on writing fiction, I found it…


Finding Our Way Towards a “Centered Set” Sexual Ethics with Wendy VanderWal Gritter

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At the Q Christian Fellowship annual conference in early January 2021 (which was totally online), I attended a breakout session entitled “Finding Our Way: Centered Set Sexual Ethics.” I was excited about the session for two reasons. The entire reason the Sex and the Gay Christian project launched was to help Queer, Christian men (myself included) develop a personal, healthy, sex-positive, sexual ethic centered on Christ. Also, I have found the thoughts of the presenter, Wendy VanderWal-Gritter, on Christian sexual ethics to be not only clear, but liberating and grounding at the same time.


First public statement on the issue as Pope consistent with previous support for same-sex civil unions

Pope Francis seems to be taking another step towards affirming the dignity of LGBTQ people as he did a month ago when he allegedly told a group of parents of LGBTQ children that gay people were gifts from God just as they are.

“Homosexuals have a right to be a part of the family,” the pope said. “They’re children of God and have a right to a family. Nobody should be thrown out or be made miserable because of it.” — Pope Francis, as reported by CNN.com and America Magazine.

In another break with his Roman Catholic predecessors and official…


Introducing Sex and the Gay Christian

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Warming up with Holy Fire

Many thanks to those of you who have taken the time to read my opening manifesto, Welcome to Holy Fire: celebrating the dance of sexuality & spirituality in the lives & relationships of gay, bisexual and queer men. I firmly believe that God loves all of us… and God loves each part of each of us.

With that in mind, I need to do a quick bait-and-switch — but one I think you’ll like.

In March of 2020, before the United States as we knew it really started to fall apart, I was doing some personal visioning, trying to discern…


A project to help gay, bi, trans, and Queer, Christian men navigate the complexities of being Queer, Christian and sexual in contemporary culture

Welcome to Sex and the Gay Christian!

Thanks for stopping by. We provide resources and spaces to help gay, bi, trans and Queer, Christian men navigate the complexities of being Queer, Christian and sexual in contemporary culture.

In this introduction we would like to explain why we are here, what our approach is, what we offer, and how you can get involved.

Why are we here?

As Queer Christians we live in a society not designed for our flourishing.

This is not God’s will. God wants our flourishing. God wants the flourishing of all humanity.

God brings human beings into the world one by one, each one unique, each one loved…


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I’ve created this Holy Fire publication as a space where gay, bisexual and Queer, Christian men can find resources, community and encouragement to explore the ways in which our uniqueness fits into God’s plans and the building up of the body of Christ, and to assist each other in the healthy integration of our sexuality and spirituality in celebration and thanksgiving for how we are wondrously made.

I firmly believe that God loves all of us (each and every one of God’s creations–even the human ones!) and that, even more radically, God loves ALL of each of us (every part…


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I have much to do, I think, in preparing for the death of my aunt. I don’t have a lot of time. God willing, I have all the time I need. I have squandered enough time, however, that I can’t get back and so I need to look forward, into the near future, towards what time I have. I almost can’t wait to tell Aunt Jeanne that I played piano in church on Sunday. She paid for my piano lessons and for the longest time I practiced on her piano in the living room. I remember being embarrassed as I…


And telling my ego to take a [temporary] hike!

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I will someday learn to trust the creative process. That might mean that I might come to trust that there is a creative force which my ego cannot control but which stands at the ready to swoop in and work with me if I manage to quiet my ego enough to let it happen. Because the ego is the thing that fears. Ram Dass suggested in an interview in the New York Times Magazine that it is only the ego that fears death, the soul lives forever. Likewise, the ego wants the fruits of creativity, it wants to take credit…


Chowing down on dozens of articles a day isn’t bad, but…

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I find that reading articles online is both a blessing and a curse. I learn so much from the things I read online, about the world, about my craft, and about myself, but I often feel I am taking in information too quickly to process it all. It feels like taking a sip from a firehose. I want to be more mindful about how I consume information. I want to be able to take the time. Actually I am able to take the time to digest what I read before moving on to the next piece of mental candy. I…


Quieting my ego with rhythm

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I have a spirituality that flourishes in the context of motion. Not only does my body love tai chi, my soul does too, as evidenced by the feeling I have that my ego manages to take a backset while I am learning something totally new, something about which I am totally ignorant. But there are other ways that motion informs my spirituality. I used to have a walking meditation practice that I really enjoyed and really helped me feel grounded and centered. And I find that typing on a keyboard is also a meditative activity, even though the only motion…

Jon Carl Lewis

A Queer, Black, Intellectual, Christian contemplative compulsively creating stories as a way of understanding the cosmos, God, and myself. www.joncarllewis.com

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